im so scared im only 14

i am convinced i am dieing
it has disabled me now and i cant go on.
always light headed
always thinking and am concinced i have a brain tumor.
always have headaches.
please someone just help me.
i dont even know if i can do this.
please,
anyone help me.
:(

[ILADVOCATE]

I understand the experience could be frightening but please don't be afraid of something rare when it could something very common and treatable. It would be good to get a regular check up from your doctor as regards the headaches and if you need emotional support speak to a school counselor. Then they could decide if further treatment and help is needed. Anxiety disorder is very treatable but being afraid of rare and unknown things happenning can sometimes be part of it.

[bradyman7]

i did both.
got blood tests run and everything.
been there three times in the last month.
but i still feel unreal,
lightheaded,
headaches,
and scary feelings all the time.
and i just need to be convinced its not anything else.

[Julie359]

I'm so sorry ur feeling this way, u really shouldn't have to have this burden of intense feelings at your age.  Do u live with ur parents? Could you talk to them about how ur feeling or if not do u have anyone close to u that u trust?

I'm also wondering if anything has happened recently that could be causing such intense anxiety?  Issues at home, school..... believe it or not but the mind is a powerful thing and can make us believe something terrible is going on physcially when really its emotionally... but the brain has to release it somehow so it comes out as a physcial symptom such as a headache..... or mutitude of smyptoms.  It's only when we really address the problem through therapy etc... that we start to feel better.

I hope u find someone to talk to and get the help emotionally you need.... it is perfectly normal by the way to admit u r having emotional difficulties so please don't be afraid people are gona think ur strange because believe me it is sooooooooo unbelieveably common...

Good luck....x

[bradyman7]

my parents know.
i just started high school.
parents recentley divorced,
and my dad has level 3 prostate cancer.
it all *****.
i just need to know its anxiety :(

[MayMayMeemers]

awww, I am sorry to hear all of this.

I started out young aswell......

I was 10 when I had my first panic attack and let me tell you, IT WAS SCARY!!

but remember, Panic attacks come in so many symptoms and many are what you have.
you are 14, you have hormone changes and YES these changes can trigger panic attacks. the divorce alone can trigger stress and as for your dad's issue aswell..that can cause panic attacks.

You ARENOT dying hun.
You are going through rough times, big changes and to be honest with you...
If it helps you could go to the er, they will only send you home, but atleast you could feel better hearing it from people who can do tests on you I read more on your post, blood tests and everything. do you do sports? If you can get your mind off of your panic attacks WHICH I know is hard you will notice your panic attacks will slowly vanish. there is no way to CONVINCE yourself that you are ok, trust me I have been through all of this.
I had it so bad I found roleplaying on the internet it helped but not much. I got out of the house, went for walks, swam, talked to people on the phone or simply played with my pets.

See, i am not a dr. so all my advice is given from pure knowledge. and word of advice...
I suggest not looking up symptoms, it makes you panic more. I seen this wonderful website posted by one of the users on here and I absoloutly LOVE IT!! if you get a symptom just remember you can look at this site and calm yourself. http://www.anxietycentre.com/anxiety-symptoms.shtml

and for goodness sake I hope you feel better soon. =)

[Julie359]

I am so sorry that ur going through such a tough time.  Any adult in ur situation would find it extremely tough let alone a young teen like urself.  

Now let my explain something  and i think anyone on this forum would agree with me, that us who suffer from anxiety have had countless, numerous tests because we have found it hard to believe that what we are experiencing is anxiety.  We go through test after test and they come back negative time after time. It doesn't mean to say that what we are feeling isn't real but what is it is our minds, our thoughts creating the bodily feelings, pain, aches etc..... It took me sooo long to finally come to terms that i suffer from anxiety and spent years looking for a medical reason, when all the time it's because of emotional bagage i carry around.

You have had tests done to check you over and all came back fine, so i think u have to realise that what is happening to u is because of the intense stress and pressure that you and ur family are going through.  To cope with first, your mum and dad getting divorced must be like your world is bein ripped apart, everything u knew, everything that was stable had suddenly been all thrown up into the air and ur left in a complete spin, having a parent leave the home is by no means easy..... then you have to cope with the fact that ur father is ill, your now faced with him needing treatments and hospital stays and ur feeling incrediably vunerable right now.... We all see our fathers as being strong, kinda superhero like when we are young, that nothing can hurt them and they will always be there and make us feel safe..... but maybe with the divorce and the illness he feels he can't do this at the moment and so ur left feeling alone and like u have lost everything.

I feel the best thing for yourself would be to go see  your school councilor, who will be able to sit and talk you through what has gone on in your life and help you to find ways to deal with this and make sense of this.....they won't judge you, they will make u feel safe and will try to help u. Maybe both u and ur mum could make an appointment and discuss how important this is for u to have one to one counciling sessions.......

If u don't get any joy from the school then try ur doctor who will be able to give you some advice on where to get some help......

If u need to chat inbox me anytime, i'm all ears and will give u any advice i can..... all the best now...Julie  

[bradyman7]

thank you so much. my anxiety has been gone ever since i read this!
thank you so much.
your an amzing woman.
you just changed my life!
thank you so much.
be well!.
love,
brady

[Julie359]

I'm not sure if u referred to me or the other lady in the post but if it is me then i am extremely touched that i had such a positive effect on u...I am so happy to be of help and thank-you for letting me know, it means alot.  Bless ya, continue to stay anxiety free and i hope your future is a bright and happy one.  Mwah Julie x

[bradyman7]

both of you!