please help

im 42 and lately i cant handle the kids my kids is 17 and we are fighting all the time  but my boyfriends has 3 kids  and 2 of them are girls  the 8 yr old  i fight with  alot  she think she knows everything  and  her little sister is never right  when my boyfriends was married  the 8 yr old got away with everything  now we have her talking  with a professionals  but i really dont know what to do with  the 2 girls , all 3 of the  girls are always around there dad even my kids  but how  can i get all of them to see  that i need time with  him  they  even sleep in our  room  if i let  them  please  someone  help me

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

wow, they need to sleep in their own rooms, never been through that so not much help here , i would talk to boyfriend, but as you know its hard to change someone. wishing you luck.

[wishiknewbetter]

yea this sounds like an intense situation. I guess you should know that I am not that much older than your 17 year old so I remember my teenage years very well. Its normal for kids that age to fight with their parents. Just take a deep breath and think "this too shall pass!"

As to the rest of them, that is quite an unhealthy situation. You need to speak to your bf and you both need to speak to the kids together. Let him know that your opinion matters, and let him know what an unhealthy situation you are in because of it. If he doesnt respect that, then maybe you need to reevealuate the WHOLE situation.