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hi, im a bit concerned about my boyfriend. For the past couple of years he's been vomiting everynight before going to sleep, he says he's bloated, i don't believe that because he's still sick if he hasn't eaten much, even if he's just eaten tea and nothing else he throws up, he's also got yellowy blisters on his eyes (the white part) and now they've spread to both eyes. He refuses to go to the doctor, his family are all overweight, got high bp, high cholesterol, what can i do? i can only drag him there to get him there.
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757137 tn?1347196453
Strangely enough men seem to be more fearful of illness than women. I had a problem with my husband and could not get him to explain his problem to a doctor. After two years of my trying to get him to seek medical help and he being obstinate, he was finally rushed to the hospital with a burst appendix and lots of infection. After the appendectomy he developed a hernia. He waited so long to take care of it that it became a major repair.  I throw up my hands.
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Hello again, ive also told his mum and dad but he still won't listen, he really needs to go but hes stubborn, ive told him we've got two little boys how do you think they would feel if it were something serious and it could've been sorted if he'd gone the doctors early.  He's one of those who doesn't worry at all, but has ran the doctors before with indigestion thinking it was a heart attack, he's also woken up in the middle of the night gasping for breath saying it's like something squashing his airway. Ive noticed his dad has the same things on his eyes and he has thyroid problems, high cholesterol, high bp,
I had a panic attack one night trying to explain what a pvc was and he replied his heart races sometimes and then goes back to normal,
He's off work in a few weeks so im going have to talk him into going, thanks for your help
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796253 tn?1344991332
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Hi kay,

Unfortunately, you cannot make your boyfriend go to the doctor.  He needs to take responsibility for his own health.  All you can do is express your concern and encourage him to go.  You may also want to try telling him that you would go with him if he needs the emotional support- maybe he is afraid something is wrong and doesn't want to know?   Throwing up every night for years is not normal.   He needs a physical exam with blood work to find out what is going on and probably a referral to a gastroenterologist.  Yellowing of the eyes can be a sign of a liver problem- something he should definitely have checked out.  Another option would be to enlist the help of his family if you think that they would encourage him to see a doctor.  Ultimately, this is something he has to do.  We cannot control what other people do.  I hope this helps.  Good luck.

Bridget
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