is this fair?

my son is 8 and has a dx of asd/aspergers,

my son has had his break times removed for the rest of the week because he keeps hugging and kissing the other children, i have told him he is not to hug the other kids and not to kiss them as he will get cold sores, but he dosent listen and keeps doing it,

the school are aware of his aspergers and know he as poor social skills, i think looseing all his play time is a bit harsh as he will still do it again, now he doesnt want to go to school tomorow

i  made him some social stories showing him how close to stand/ sit next to others, and said instead of hugging big boys shake hands, but he still continues to hugg and kiss other kids in school

any surgestions on how i can get him to respect others personal space?

[MJIthewriter]

I wish I remembered what they did to me to get me to behave better. For whatever reasons I thought it was acceptable to tear up bits of paper and drop it on people's heads. I also poked at people to feel their skin. I think it got me a time out and some discourging.

I do think removing free time sounds a bit harsh. I think there are better ways of handling.
gtg, I hope that was useful.

[RockRose]

It does seem a bit harsh - kids who have difficulty with behavior need their free time and "breaks" more than kids who have no trouble behaving.  It seems like missing one break might be enough -

It's kind of a surprise that he's hugging and kissing other kids isn't it?  I'm a little surprised by that.

I think,  too,  rather than tell him not to do it because he'll get cold sores,  tell him the truth.  If he keeps doing that,  other kids will never want to play with him and they'll make fun of him.  That's the real truth,  and he needs to know that.

Best wishes.  I hope he gets through this week okay.

[MJIthewriter]

I had another thought. What if he hugs and kisses partially because he thinks that is acceptable behavior from watching TV and movies?  That may or may not be the case, but I would certainly be confused if I was just learning how to interact with others. It's quite a strange world with lots of mixed messages.

It's okay to hug and kiss mom when greeting...why isn't it acceptable to hug and kiss teacher?  Even to this day I'm still trying to learn what behaviors are appropriate in what scenario. Something appropriate in one setting may not be in another. Unfortunately for me, it seems I have to learn the hard way. I blunder through society and live with embarrassment. I feel confusion initially, after getting the wrong reaction. When I finally have an idea why I got the strange reaction, then I'm embarrassed. I wonder why I did that?!  Sadly, I’m afraid this will be an ongoing challenge to your son as it is for me. He will likely learn to adapt and develop some kind of mental frame of reference like me, but there will always be new situations where I can’t rely on what I’ve done in the past. Same will likely be for him too.