My son is 20 months old and has me worried. He has never really been a pointer, points at things of interest rarely, sometimes at things in books, not good at following the direction of my pointing. He walks and runs on toes a lot but can walk flat. My husband did this as a child I am told. He flaps hands a lot mostly when excited,but also when not, sometimes taps lips, has been licking things a lot, windows, but my arm or leg, sometimes its just his lips rubbing over objects. He has hands in mouth a lot, will sometimes pull them out if I say so. He also presses his face into my arm and squeezes tight, or presses his forehead into mine tightly. He stares at his reflection in the oven door a lot, usually for a few minutes at a time, about 4-5 times a day. He drops objects in front of it and picks them up, or squats, jogs in place,dances, he is usually smiling while doing this. He mostly plays with books, looks thru them or "reads", likes to carry spoons around or any kind of cooking utensil, mostly in his mouth or tapping on something. He plays with his toy phone, brings it to me so I can say hello, also puts hand to ear and says ' who is it?' He claps a lot, this started about a month ago. I attributed this to constant coaching, songs with clapping, as he never really clapped that much before. He brings me books to read, toy phone,a hat for me to wear, which makes him laugh. He never tries to bring me over to where he is at for help or to show me anything though. He can kick a ball, kind of throw one, mostly drops it. He can play peekaboo and hide and seek. Can say many words, is constantly talking or babbling. He has a good memory. He has reached his milestones pretty much on time.Has good eye contact, likes kids, will go up to strangers sometimes and smile at them til they smile back. Sometimes he seems a little zoned out in stores or busy places. He will repeat words multiple times then on to another word or gibberish. Is this normal?