How do i convice my husband to stop giving our autistic son milk?

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My son is 32 months not talking and a host of autistic symptoms  and he was diagonised at 2 and half, his very hyper, no attention, has to be called 5 times for him to look at u, plays with wheel, jumps on the bed alot, screams and loves to swing. i have noticed that he go really crazy with his hyperness just after he has the milk, his also a picky eater, his still on heinz powdered diners with a few dry cranch fingers food for snacks. Coz of his picky eating the dietician put him on peadi- sure which my hubsband loves giving him. My problem is i want to try the elimination diet coz i knw for a fact that to cesine in drink affects him very badly with his behaviour and speech, so i want to see if the change in the diet will help or not, but husband dosnt want. How do i go about convicing him?

[ReesMom02]

Perhaps give dad some information about autism and opioid/milk reactions. Most of the ASD Kids on our forum react this way to milk or wheat. They do a lot better off of it and there are alternate nutritional approaches for our kids that are healthy and dairy free.
You can provide proper nutrition without cow milk which I think a lot of people don't realize. In fact there is more calcium in broccoli than in commercially pasteurized milk.

We took ours off of it at age 3 because all he did was drink milk. He would not eat. And he was withdrawn, pale and layed around all day and suffered chronic constipation. It made a big difference. With the opioid reaction, it makes them addicted to the milk. But it also affects behavior, development and speech.

I would consider gf/cf for him based on what you said he eats. Another option is to have him tested for gluten/casein allergy. perhaps if dad see's in on paper he may realize that your son really has a medical condition, and you not just a worried mom. It's not a bad to have the pediatrician or autism doctor explain this to your husband. ASD kids are different. No doubt about that, and they have many food intolerance's.

Your frustration is pretty common among mom's with ASD kids. It took me a long time to get it through family members heads, NOT to feed my son food coloring or milk.

Consider joining the Autism-Mercury forum on Yahoo for more parent support and information.

[Jason C Bourret, Ph.D., BCBA-D]

The thing to do would be to have frank discussions with your pediatrician.  If your son has a condition that milk would exacerbate, you and your husband both need to be properly informed about it.  Dietary treatments for autism, however, are ineffective.  Multiple research studies have shown this conclusively, and I have never met a professional providing treatment or educational services to individuals with autism who has found those sorts of interventions to be effective.  If there is a medical reason to avoid dairy, absolutely make sure that you’re following your pediatrician’s guidelines.  However, I wouldn’t keep my fingers crossed about seeing an improvement in symptoms of autism.

[melipops]

HI, I understand your frustration. Take hubby to the next paed appointment and bring this up with the dr in front of your hubby. That way you both heard it from the paed. Just be careful what you do with diet as we have a son that has issues with food and he has just been diagnosed with severe anaemia. They need the nutrients to grow and for brain development. Good Luck