help me please im begging

[concerned_mother1983]

my son is driving me crazy he is obsessed with patterns. so much so that he unrinates in his bed in patterns! he has done some pretty extreme things and i can't find a doctor that is willing to help him. he has been diagnosed with bi-polar, adhd, and with a few other things. i was looking online though trying to find some help and started reading about asperger's syndrome. he has every single symptom. what do i do to get these doctor's to stop thinking im crazy? for Christ's sake he has put his head through windows, he has tried to murder his little sister and numerous other violent and wierd behavior. can anyone help??????????

[Jason C Bourret, Ph.D., BCBA-D]

If you believe that your son meets the criteria for an autism diagnosis, it is important to bring your child to a specialist in diagnosing autism.  This might be a developmental pediatrician, pediatric neurologist, child psychiatrist, or child psychologist, among others.  Make sure that the individual providing the diagnosis has experience in diagnosing autism spectrum disorders.  Your pediatrician, local hospital, or school district should be able to refer you to a qualified individual.  Make sure that the diagnosis and the reasons for it are fully explained to you and that you don’t have any confusion about the reasons for the diagnosis.  If you have any concerns, seek a second opinion and find a diagnostician you trust and are comfortable with.

[kbag4]

I feel for you so much as I have a son, he is a little older but no matter how old he gets he will always be 5 years old.  I have seen drs since he was 4 years old.  They tell me he has global cognative impairment, which is just a fancy way of saying that he is mentally retarded.  I am not really sure why they say this bc he speaks four languages, yet he cannot read nor write his name.   Nor does he try.  He goes poop and wipes it all over the bathroom, he refuses to take a shower and when he does he stands in there for an hour and never once washes his hair nor his body.  When I asked what to do about this, I was told that I was not allowed to bathe him due to his age, bc I could go to jail for child molestation.  My son has just been arrested for this, he is 19, and we are at our wit's end.  No matter what I have tried to do, everyone involved in his life has told me he needs to be home with me, now he will either go to prison or he will go to a mental institution.  They told me that children like him could go one way or the other, very affectionate and sexual or very mean, I got one that is both.  He has hit me, tried to throw his sister down the stairs, hurt others, he makes up stories that are not only horrific and grusome, but they are sure to get someone into trouble real soon.  I urge you to find a child psychologist that deals only with these types of cases and follow your heart.  There are a lot of doctors that work for Social Services that work with children with these problems, alos there is a community place, it is called different names in different places, I am not sure where you are from, but here it is called Monadnock Family Services, MDS, in Hillsborough it is called Community Bridges.  Good Luck and God Bless You, I know I have had to have the patience of a Saint, but there is always a breaking point and for sure you do not want him to be where my child is.  KB