Please read any help would be great

Hi i was just wondering if i could talk to someone about some issues, Or i could kindly have your input, I have a 5 year old little boy, And currently working with a lot of people to see what is up with him, His behaviour most times is out of control. He will have a tantrum over the smallest things and they will last for hours at a time. He doesnt like change at all. He takes everything litrally, I once told him he can have a toy from the shops, to him that ment as soon as he got out of the car the toy would be there, and because it wasnt it upset him alot. Hes a fussy eater, and he goes through stages, example.. he would spit every 1st mouthful of food out then contiue to eat the rest, he thought many foods would harm him, he hides his toys in a place he knows in the morning before leaving for school. IF i move them it sets him off, I do tend not to move them anymore. If i take him on holiday or even away for a few days his behaviour gets worse, expecially when there is no routine set in place. His school has noticed alot of things also with him, And he shakes? shakes when getting a drink shakes when playing, shakes at everything, And to be honest i dont know what to do. But i have to say the people around trying to help are being amazing, we are yet to figure everything out and what it is thats causing all this. he has a thing about death, and talks alot about it, once or twice hes spoke and dying himself. and when hes gonna die. its heartbreaking.

[grannienannie]

is he an only child? do you give him one on one time without everybody around? do you talk about a trip with him before it is complete? maybe he might have ocd. when i was a child and something was moved i know I put there..i will get upset too... it almost like your purse...if you know you put it one place and it gets moved...you not only get confused but upset...Maybe he need a guy to take him out...I know my son dont like being around too much women..but if my oldest son takes him out..he is calm again...almost like when simba went out with his father to look at the land in the lion king...lol I have 3 boys and i noticed they stayed a lot calmer when I had big brothers for them or a male figure to take them out often...I know how you feel...and if his eating is picky ask him to taste it first before you put it on the table...let him help you in the kitchen to let him know its something that you and he did together...I hope i helped a little...bye