understanding autism

[kathy3083]

Hello,
I have a friend who's son is 4 years old now, he was been diagnosed with sensory  process disorder when he was age of 2. But as she continue to aged, the child was seen some autistic behaviors, like social impairment, echolalia, arranging things in order.. now my friend was giving me some research that would benefit his sons medical issues and education as well, I am not with the family but I am not convinced that this boy has this kind of issues because I'm observing how the mother was too cautious or exaggerate things on his son. I believe social developments is develop thru a systemic desenzitation, the delays of such development is depend on the way you raise your kid, my friend never go out with any kids, just stays home..so how could his son social develop that  way. I might be able to say that she just malingering things in order for her to not go work, and just stay home and take care of his only son. She wants me to be in her sympathy that's why she keeps
Me updating on his son status, she keep changing doctors, doesn't believe on his family pediatric, seeking more lab test and exams for his son. I feel pitty to the son, and the father, I swear that there is nothing wrong with his son..it's only a matter of dealing, parenting as well to his sons behavior.. the son was misdiagnosed with sensory process di order with autistic spectrum syndrome..and I believe he got this things arranging in order from his mother because she thought this way, arrange them carefully, so what do you expect the child will do that evry time his toys was misplace.. I am not skeptical about autism, but his is not, the son can play to other children, can speak, and like a normal child, but then the parents like this child to be sick. Which I can't barely tell to this mother in front of her that his son is fine..why would I do? She still keep posting on his Facebook about his son, about autistic campaign, and I can't see his husband supporting him doing this things. Recently she believe and send me an article, about autistis risk for vaccination, but studies shows there were no evidence risk vaccine in autism. and she still believe for not having his son vaccinated to any..what would I do? Will I ignore this or will I verbally tell to this mother that she needs vaccination to get free from illness.

[kathy3083]

To IChris,

Good to know in your country have that, maybe here in our country where autism is not that much concerned  and with less knowledge about that case. So it's easy for them to diagnose without proper observation,and  analyzation.
Yes there is a diagnosis, but not sure if there is a diagnosis for autism already,  the only copy that I have is when he was diagnosed with SPD.  But I did some research about his son but never send it to her, seen some  photo on his fb page about his son condition, I feel pity to the son, his life will become missirable when he grow, his life privacy was been displayed over the social media , where is now the Hippa there. But it's too late now..been known to all..but I guess that's the mother right decision.
Thanks anyway.. Ill just shut up and let her do what she want..will it be better? she'll know  that If i am not answering on her favor, it means I'm saying no and not right? How can I handle to situations with them when we see in an unexpected ways or occasions..I don't want to loose friendship with them because they were very good and close to our family..

[IChris]

In my country one can contact the child welfare authorities about such a case. But if the child has a diagnosis made by a professional it may be hard to challenge that.

[kathy3083]

Ichris
Hi,
I also read that factitious disorder by proxy, related to manchausen syndrome and manchausen syndrome by proxy,, r/t malingering, how can we stop this kind of parents now a days? I feel sorry to his son, will I ignore her plans to do more research with them?  Yesterday,, she was asking me if i can join to them with her mom, i learned also that her mom work in a medical field.
Anyways, I cannot blame them for doing this, but still this is not right.. Parenting is a very wide range of study, this situation of a friend should be stop so his son will live what was like life to be...

[IChris]

Based on your information, it is impossible to reject autism spectrum disorder as a possibility. That said may it also be as well possible that either the child has an attachment disorder as a result of bad parenting, or that the mother may have a factitious disorder by proxy.