Not fair

I just wanted to talk about something I saw last night on a show called "I didn't know I was pregnant." On the show there was a lady taking birth control every day and at the same time. She and her husband were also older... she looked like she was in her 40's and he was in his 50's or 60's. They didn't even want a baby at all. Then she found out she was pregnant and about to deliver. The show was about the woman going through 39 weeks or pregnancy and not even knowing because she was a more heavyset woman and not showing many symptoms. Even her blood test was negative. I just wanted to vent because to me this is so unfair and made me cry. I am TTC and im not on birth control. Me and my fiance both want a baby very bad and im a healthy 25 year old. I don't smoke, i take prenatal vitamins and I have been TTC for 5 years.I have very irregular periods but I was pregnant when I was 19 but had an abortion. Am I just being punished for giving up my first pregnancy? It was the right thing to do at the time but now I don't know what else to think. Im glad I can talk to people on here, it helps.

[Princessa745]

Oh Bella!!!! Im sure if you mad that decision at that time that it was the right one for you!! No one has the right to judge you. I know how you feel. I see many people who don't want to or are not even trying and are pregnant while "we" that one to be and are trying have not been able to. Dont feel bad. No god is not punishing you. Don't feel that way and don't give up hope. SSBD*********^^^^^^********!!!! Keep your chin up!!!


Rossie

[joal]

Things like that always upset me to. How is it someone that doesn't even want a child gets one? You are not being punished, hang in there and your day will come.  :)

[lruder]

I am personally glad you posted this. Its hard for me to talk to those around me about things like this. It makes me feel like there are others who share my frustrations.

[gokuangel]

We all understand how you feel! we're in the same boat! I havent taken B/C in 6yrs but here I am turning 28 and still no children! It is hard but keep your head up!!

[BellaMarie84]

I wish it was easy for everyone. Then at least the good people would be able to have babies too! Good luck to you : )

[anxiouslywaiting910]

Me and one of my best friends were talking she wasn't in the best situation at one point now she is starting college..with 3 kids and here youngest just turned one and she is a single mother.  She told me that all of her kids came at a time she really needed to change something that was wrong in her life...and they all helped her better herself and the life of her kids.  Her last daughter motivated her to get out of a really abusive reationship.  Something that no matter how many times I said something never worked.

I'm just saying God has a plan for all of us...and he doesn't make mistakes!!  You just have to be patient.  I had a miscarriage in March...I begged and pleaded with God to send me another baby..I was an emotional wreck!!  Until it dawned on me maybe God has his own plan for me.  So I changed my prayer to..God if having a baby is not what you have planned for me right now please allow me to move on with my life.  While I still have a desire to have a child  I am not longer obsessing over it.  I wish you all, all the luck and the world..even though I truely think you just have to wait on God to give you that blessing.  I'm starting college so I'm sure that will keep me busy. I wish all you ladies the best and you are all in my prayers.

[Ladybugbc]

Hi Bella I watched it too.. That program creeped me out. and my heart sank when they said they decided to give the baby up for adoption. Actually she was 28and he was 52..
I cried after watching the prgram thinking how unfair life can be. I guess I will see AF any time now which makes me over emotional any way. But don't worry. Try not to think about it. You did what you had to do at that time. Try to forgive your self and not to think about the past any more. Good luck and lots of Baby Dust.

[gokuangel]

Adoption stories do that dont they? Did any1 see the last episode of 16 & PG on MTV? well they decided to give the baby up for adoption and i was bawling my eyes out it was so so sad! I didnt know whether to be happy or sad!  I felt it was good the baby was getting a well deserved loving home but at the same time i felt they should take the responsibility!The couple was so upset but felt it was the right thing to do! I guess all the emotions of it and TTC can do that to you!

[anxiouslywaiting910]

Yeah, I watched the 16&PG!! I watched it and cried...I made my husband watch it with me lol He doesn't like my shows :) He made fun of me for crying, but he really got into it lol one min he was saying they should keep the baby and the other he thought they were doing the right thing.  I really thought they were gonna change their minds..I wanted them to, not like my opinion mattered. ha ha When the boy read that letter it was SOOOO sweet.  

[Ready_4_Baby_2]

Hey I watched 16&PG and I was so proud of that last couple. They did something I know I could never do and they made a very hard desicion and stuck with it. I was crying my eyes out and at the after show too.