My wife displays all the symptoms of a personality disorder and her destructive, abusive behavior is taking a heavy toll on our marriage. We've been in and out of marriage counseling sessions and we have even attended individual one-on-one counseling with different therapists, but all with little to no success in terms of making a breakthrough. My therapist thinks it is possible my wife suffers from BD, but assures me that her therapist will recognize it during their sessions together. And then my wife suddenly quit going to counseling. She's euphoric and acting like there's nothing wrong with the world. Our marriage is perfect. My therapist refuses to see us as a couple (understandably) and suggested that my wife must chose our next marriage counselor, but my wife sees no point in it, adding that she doesn't trust "any of them."
My therapist suggests I have to be prepared to move out, but with a teenage daughter at home, I really don't want to. I love my wife, but whatever this mental affliction is, it's killing me -- it's killing our marriage. How do I get her to accept the fact that she needs help? I know just me saying "you need help" would go over like a lead balloon. Would moving out really help? Would that be a catalyst for her to seek professional help?