What the hell did I do now?

We attended a Halloween party over the weekend.  I was on the same meds that I have been for a while now, but the last few days I have been very tired.
We went to the party, and about 2 hrs later, I could hardly keep my eyes open, and it was becoming obvious. I was trying my best but I was exhausted.
My daughter thought that I was being rude and disrespectful because I was socializing minimally, and she thought what I was doing because I was tired, was being done because I felt that her boyfriends family was not good enough for me, but that certainly was not the case.
My husband drove us home, and I did say good-bye to a few people, but many were out in the backyard around a bonfire.
I do admit that I should have gone down to the bonfire to say goodbye, but I just wanted to go to bed.
Now I have been banned by my daughter to attend any future events, and she has stopped calling me. Then the next day after she talked to my husband, he got mad at me because he is going to visit his family, and I told him that I would rather stay here, and be with my friends, but this incident got him going, now if I dont go and visit his family, which is a 4 hr drive one way, he tells me we are over.
Why dont they understand? Why is everything twisted from my intentions, which are innocent, to being cruel, rude and unacceptable? Why can I not decide what I want to do with my time? Everything I do seems to be wrong, and the constant hate against me is hurting me deeply...I am trying the best I can.
I dont know whether I should send a card to my daughters boyfriends parents to thank them for inviting me, and try to explain that I was over tired, but then that could be misunderstood...what should I do?  This is making very depressed.

[Xila31]

I would say yes, send a card to your daughter's boyfriends family. If you are disabled explain this and that your medication has made you over tired and ill. If not, then just say that you were over tired. If they do not understand then it is rude of them.

Your daughter is being way over the top in my opinion, and so is your husband. If you are ill at this time they should not force you to do anything. But, people do no understand bipolar. Since we are not in wheel chairs or having our hair fall out many people will never understand. I'm sorry about this happening to you. You and your husband need to see a therapist together that can explain to him what is happening to you. That's my only advice.

[paranoid_cataclysm]

Sounds like the daughter gets that from her father.  Some of the meds also cause people's hair to fall out but I guess you probably meant from the disease itself.

[adel_ezz]

you didn't do any mistake. On the contrary it's them that they should understand and be considerate especially that they know you are BP. I do what pleases me and i don't need to give excuses

As to sending a card or not this depends on the culture of people. Sometimes when you over exceed something people don't find excuses for you on the contrary they blame you more; especially that you seem to confess you did something weird. I wouldn't do anything and even don't care i.e. give a dam even of what your family thinks about you did. you did nothing wrong. BE yourself and suit yourself. By blaming yourself, you put a stress upon yourself which is dangerous for BP.