I think I am about to lose my mind. My middle daughter who is now 9, was hospitalized four times when she was seven - I thought she was just having horrible temper tantrums for too long - it was too late when I realized that there was something seriously wrong - she wrote me a note that said "mommy please help me, I hear voices telling me to hurt myself" It got progressively worse from there - however after 1 1/2 years of different meds, she is finally stable - she is on depakote, zoloft and risperdal as well as daytrana. Well, my five year old has been acting the same way that my older daughter was acting but ten times worse - the doc put her on 5 mg of Abilify and it worked for about two weeks and now she is hurting her older sister - the 9 year old ( I also have an 11 year old who is just fine). She antagonizes the 9 year old endlessly who is doing a great job of dealing with her because she is stabilized on her medications. I cannot control this 5 year old little terror and I'm afraid of putting her on more meds - she only weighs 40 pounds. I worry about the effects that all of this has on my 11 year old as well as the way that I act (very frustrated most of the time). It is like constantly walking on egg shells - we cannot go anywhere without someone having a meltdown and making a scene, we can't sit and play a game because one of them is always having a bad day. The thing here is that my oldest two daughters have the same dad but my youngest one has a different dad - I used to be able to blame the older ones dad - it just made me feel better for some reason, but now with the younger one being diagnosed - this is clearly coming from ME and I cannot stop blaming myself - I wonder if they will ever have normal lives, will they ever be able to have a normal relationship/have kids etc? I worry that when they are bigger and don't have to take their medicine just because mom says so (like when they are teenagers) that they will kill themselves or hurt someone else...... I just don't know what to do or how to deal with this - our house is in a constant state of uproar and I need help. I do not have any family and no-one wants to be friends with us because the kids are so disruptive. My oldest tries to get out of the house as often as possible just to get away from us. Can anyone offer any advice to help me deal with this? I just don't know what to do anymore. Both girls were full term pregnancies, no complications during birth, no drug or alcohol use during pregnancy - picture perfect until they were about 4.....
I'd appreciate any advice anyone has - where does this horrible horrible disease come from and why did God give it to my innocent little girls?? Why not me? I took care of my mom for six years while she was dying a very slow painful death from a liver transplant and then took care of my dad for four years while he died from emphsema/copd - I feel like I have had my share of heartache and things are not ever going to get any better for me. If I am so upset all of the time, how can I possibly help them???????????
Distraught and upset and frustrated,
Thanks,