is this bpd or bipolar

[feller156]

Sorry this is long but I just want to state every fact.Ok i got this long time friend who quite recently started exhibiting some very strange and worrisome psychological symptoms.It started at the beginning of last year when we as a group of friends  went away for a little holiday, this friend of mine was 100% normal,happy making jokes like always,until we went to to a bar the saterday night.At first he was normal and like a switch he went the complete oposite, he had this dull facail expresion, didnt say a word and just stared at the wall and when we ask him a question he would either whisper something softly or not anwser us at all.When we finnished there and walked to the car we realised he wasnt there with us  and when I went in to look for him he just sat there at the same spot staring at the wall when I told him we are leaving ,he  walked out with me we got home and he went straight to hes room and locked the  door for the rest of the night. Next day he  finally came out of hes room in the middle  of the afternoon all happy like if nothing  happend, and when I asked him what was
wrong he just said he felt a bit off  which was strange for me cause i never seen someone doing that when they feel off. But during the year he started doing really strange things, he started stealing from all of us and completely denies it evan though we found the stolen items in hes
room like cellphones wallets ect. He will just say he cant remember taking it.He compolsively lies to all us about every
little thing. One night I went to visit him and hes roomate at their apartment and
hes roomate deciced to invite two girls over they came over, we all started having
a good time and suddenly my friend came out of the kitchen with a plate full of cracker with ketchup mixed with yogurt on
it. We all politely said no thanks and after that he went and stood infront of the
mirror in the hallway and threw the
crackers one by one againat the mirror and went and locked him self in hes room again and just refused to answser us
when we asked if hes ok.Hes been asked
to leave several parties because he make inappropriate sexual comments towards
girls and obviously made them feel very
uncomfortable, he vandalises peoples
property like he ripped the rim off one of
my friends car wheel and broke it for
absolutley no reason and thats just one
example and their are many and for that alot of people have distant their self from him. If we go clubbing he gets completely
hammerd and starts embarising himself and us to no end like we will just stand in the middle of the crowd enjoying
ourselfs and he will just tell some random girl if she would sleep with me cause i told
him to ask her which ive never done or he will say lets gets shots hes paying then
we will all follow him to the bar where he
will order this huge amount of shots and
just before it come he will tell us he just
has to go to the bathroom and just
disappear and leave us with the bill. Last
year for absolutley no reason he just
completely avoided us all he deleted us
from facebook didnt awnser my calls
when i called him at hes home just to find
out what i done to him to write us off for
no reason,he answered heard it was me
and he just hung up. So I decided to not
bother anymore and never to contact him
again and just last week he text me for the
first time in 3months cussing me and telling me what a horrible person I am for
writing him off when all I did was try and
be understanding over what was wrong
and when I tried to call him again he just
rejected my calls.Im trying to be a good
friend because all my friends where there for me when I went threw a difficult time
but im starting to give up and it hurts
me.He refuses to seek any professional
help or admit something is wrong. Is this
a type of bpd or bipolar??? or something
else but one things for sure this is no
where near normal hes never been like
this before.

[persephonedemeter]

Well, he is definitely manipulative and abusive, physically and emotionally...and acting out inappropriately.. I'm sure the alcohol abuse isn't helping any. Whether or not he isin psychosis is up in the air unless someone actually asks him. It doen't sound like he is very cooperative. So, if he wasn't your friend and a complete stranger, what would you do?

If you want to help him, without enabling him, and before he gets in touble with the law or harms someone, then alert someone about it. I don't know if you are in the US or out in a remote area, but if you don't have a mental health crisis response unit or a crisis hotline in your area. Otherwise, it ill be a given that the police will get involved one way or another. Stealing, sexual harassment, and battering isn't really something a good friend would do. Even if he is mentally ill, that still isn't acceptable behavior in or out of a hospital.

I am assuming you are all legal drinking age for your state or country, but guessing you are adults with not much life experience. Check on the entl health resources in your area to find out what to do if you really want to effectively help him. However, you should know that the first rule for anyone who helps another is to make sure you are safe and not in a vulnerable position of being harmed or endangered. You don't have any clue what is going on in this fellow's head, and he already demonstrated that he doesn't really care what happens to others.

If it is over your head and you aren't capable or knowledgeable about dealing with a behavioral crisis situation, talk to someone who is physically there in your area who can advice you on what to do. It can be police, paramedics, hospital, a crisis intervention hotline, a mental health resource or support  group, a pastor, priest, rabbi, etc.

If you are all underage, then talk to your parents, school counselor, someone in the college clinic, etc. It is going to feel very uncomfortable intervening, btw, and I am pretty sure he will most likely tell you off.

Regardless of age, knowledge and experience level, safety first. whatever action or inaction you take has consequences, so you need to know what you are getting into and know exactly what you are capable of handling.  Btw, it isn't anything like what it is in movies or television...those portrayals get edited for a good story.

[Samharley]

Wow, I dont think your friend has BPD. Possible symptons of Bipolar I, but more Psychosis in my opinion. Sounds like he really needs some type of help, especially if he is a danger to himself or others. Have you attempted talking to his parents? x

[thatquietgirl]

This doesn't specifically sound like either to me.  Sounds like a guy who is emotionally in trouble.  There may or may not be something going on mental health-wise, but only a professional can diagnose him.