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pregnant w/ bipolar boyfriend and depressed

I am18 weeks pregnant with my bipolar bf who also has.addiction issues. He was diagnosed 6 months ago, hasn't seen a doctor or been to counseling since Sept, hasn't had his meds adjusted since august, in and out of using. I never know what man I'm gonna get, the sweet loving one or the cold and selfish one? We have been together for 4 years. I feel hopeless and depressed that he will never get better. He is low on meds and has no plans for when he runs out. I got child services involved and now he has a court date jan 10th in family court due to charges of neglect. I felt like this.was the only way he would get back on track...by a court order! My question is, does it ever get better? Because right now I feel so hopeless!
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  Sweetie I'm so sorry to hear you're goinh thur this. But he needs help with his addition first to realize he needs help for his bipolar. I know you will do what you think is right. And staying there is not the answer. He is  dragging you down and making you depressed. So please help yourself and get help for yourself. Maybe leaving will make him hit rock bottom. And get help, make him see how life would be without you. Try with all you have to walk away for your  health and the health of your baby. Maybe once he it and gets it together you both can be together. I know it hurt to leave the one you love. But you wouldn't want a life time living like this. Been there. I wish you only the very best
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Help for your baby. Sorry
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Agree with Robin. As a parent your first thing is to protect your baby. After that are other things, relationship etc. I will never forgive my mum that she didn't protect us and stayed in marriage with my alcoholic and bipolar ( not diagnosed) father. I even can't talk to her now. The trauma is massive.
If you have social services involved they won't be happy that you are with an addict. Their responsibility is to protect children.
Go away from him. He won't change unless he wants to. No court, relationship or child makes him change if he is not interested. And sorry for being so blunt. All the best.
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I agree with all. It isn't going to get better if there is no change. It doesn't sound like he is going to change any time soon, and there is a baby in the picture now, besides yourself.  It doesn't sound like your bf is thinking about the welfare of all. Four years with no change, no responsibility, and no reliability is a long time.
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I threw him out tonight. The love for my unborn son trumps my love/concern/like for my bf. He abandoned us for Christmas, I found a broken crack pipe on my kitchen floor and he broke my front door when I tried to lock him out . I am pressing charges. He also goes before a judge in family court Jan 10th so he will be in big trouble when he gets before a judge. It's really hard (and I feel a great deal of shame and embarrassment that I am now alone in this) but I know I did the right thing. I just wish it didn't have to come with so much pain. :'(
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You did the right thing without a doubt. I know it hurts, but it will only get more painful if he is still using and not being responsible about his bipolar. You can get great support and advice at Nar anon. You don't have to be alone, other women have been there and would love to help you along the way. I wish my mom would have left my dad sooner. Take care if yourself and that baby.
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Thank you. I appreciate your words of encouragement.
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You did really well! I know it is hard but you did the right thing for you and your baby. No one deserve life like that. Just stay your grounds and never ever even think to take him back. As above I can't forgive my mum for not getting rid of my father as he made our life a misery. You have many wonderful years in front of you with your son. My son is now 6 and life with him is great. I do whatever I can to keep him happy and we have loads of fun together. The bond with him is just amazing. I have never had anything like that with my parents.
It will settle eventually. You can be really proud of yourself. All the best. Marie
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Oh btw I kicked out my ex on my son's third birthday as he was soo busy with his friends I had to wait for more than an hour to get him to give our son his first bike. I got so mad that I was able to kill him. And he wasn't an addict just a selfish b****. We went through the stages when he wanted to kill me, abused me etc and ended up at family court as I refused to give him our son due to abuse etc.
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