HELP! Mirena or not?

Hi there, I am 16 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, I know this isn't along time but we are very serious. My boyfriend is 18 years old and I am his first girlfriend. We having be talking about sex recently but are to scared in case I get pregnant, my boyfriend took me to the doctor couple months back and I was put on the Noriday the mini as I suffer from really bad migraines. I have been taking that Noriday for 52 days now but I have been having a few problems. I have really bad periods, they are heavy and I get bad cramps at the start, now I'm on Noriday it is slightly lighter but the second day of my period is still extremely bad. I usually get the day off school and I lay in bed all day as I leak through my clothes a lot if I do to much physical activities and I have bad cramps. I have my getting my period now 3 times a month and its horrible! I have started spotting to which I have never really done ever. I have been feeling a bit down also and weight gain and headaches every day. I'm not to sure if I want to continue taken it no more. But I need to be on some kind of contraception! I have a big phobia of needles or anything going into my arm so that wipes out getting the injection or implant :( I'm not very good at remembering to take pills at all! I have done a lot of researching and I am looking into the IUS, Mirena. My boyfriend rung the doctors and they said they might not be able to give me to mirena as I am to young? Is this true? I like the sound of the IUS I know it will be expensive and will cost more and least $500 New Zealand but it will be worry free and I won't have to do much other than check up on it. Was just wondering if anyone could give me Information about the IUD/ IUS and if I will be able to get it or not? If not what is another effective form of contraception that I could use. I know the condom is could by they can break! My boyfriend was a virgin when we first have sex so I know we don't have to worry about STD's. He's very nerdy hahaha and wouldn't sleep around so that's why I thought the mirena would be good idea. Thank you (:

[sweetpea03]

Typically doctors will not give a teen, or any young women who has not had children yet, an IUD.  The reason for this is because if you have not had children yet, the IUD is more likely to slip or fall out of place, and it may also cause other issues. We live in a sue happy society, so they don't want to get sued by unhappy women when it doesn't work like they want it to.

Condoms would be a good idea no matter what type of birth control you get, as it is always nice to have a second form of back up protection against pregnancy. You can look into using the vaginal ring, which may be an option for you to try. Talk to your doctor about birth control options and what can work the best for you. Go over the pros and cons of each of them and then decide from there. Even though you are afraid of needles, it may be time to overcome that fear. As an adult, you will have to deal with needles, so you can't always just avoid them.

Also, if your boyfriend or you have ever done any type of sexual contact with another person, doesn't have to be sex, then you both need to get tested for STDs/STIs. You don't have to have sex in order to get a number of STDs.

One last thing. If you don't feel completely ready for sex or have any doubts in your mind about having sex, please do not have sex. There is absolutely no shame in waiting to have sex and although many teens think that "everyone is doing it", it's not true. I waited until I was 20 to have sex and have no regrets. I am happy I waited, as I didn't want to risk my future for a 'fun night'. Just something to think about. Take care.

[BambiCambi]

Thanks so much! I was in a long relationship with ex.. things didn't end up to good and he cheated on me. Me and my ex were both virgins and had done nothing with no one else before hand.. but he did sleep with someone else towards the last 3 months of our relationship. We always used a condom though and she was a virgin. I am always worried about STDs/STIs :( My boyfriend at the moment is a virgin, he's 18 haha very nerdy and wouldn't even know what to do when it comes to sleeping around and what not, so I trust him. Both of us have looked at the pro's and con's of every other form of contraception but this seems to be very effective and easy. Of course it doesn't protect us from STDs/STI's we are aware of that. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow, where we will talk about it and other options very worried! My boyfriend and I both don't want to do have sex until we both know I am safe from pregnancy, so no rush though! Thanks! xx

[macynsmama]

I know i live in the US and no doctor here is going to give a woman of any age an IUD until she has had at least one child!!

[BambiCambi]

Hey there, I went to the doctors and they were willing to give me it, I had the swabs done and they came back negative for any infections or STD's / STI's, I then got a blood test done to see if I could get it subsidy? (If I lacked iron as the Mirena makes periods lighter after awhile) Blood test came back and I am in deed lacking Iron which means I get the Mirena for free ( saving $350!) I got in inserted 2 days ago and MAN! Did it hurt.. But was completely worth it. I have had mild cramping since I got it inserted but they are manageable. But I woke up this morning with terrible back pain. I can't bend over or pick anything up :( Hopefully the back pain goes away. Anyway, anyone who is thinking about getting it and hasn't had children, I would suggest it. Yes the insertion hurts but it was 5 minutes tops and then 5 years of worry free sex.