do i have bpd

[confused211]

Hi, I am very confused about this.  I have been having horrible mood swings for as long as i can remember.  I get irritated at the slightest thing and i just act on my emotions.  I am very impulsive i decided to have cosmetic surgery the same day i went for the consultation, and everything that could go wrong has.  And the doctor actually cancelled on me.  I am an impulse shopper.  I treat my fiance horribly , He can make the slightest wrong face at me and i go off I am never in between just happy or miserable.  My fiance never knows what mood i will be in from one moment to the next, I also put myself before the needs of everyone else.  I know that it is selfish, but can not help it.  Can someone help me.  

[sam392]

Lost in the Mirror is a book your shouod read..It tells it all about bpd. I have a great friend that I value very much..she has bpd..always spends hundreds of dollars on her face such as skin peals, waxing, hair etc each month or every other week. Highly irritated at everything, deeply secerative and always wants to be in control. Mood swings almost hourly  I have been afraid to talk to her because of the illness and now she just had a hysterectomy. She is 39 yr old !!  Mom died at a early young age leaving her ..all this is effecting her...she is BPD...read the book I read it in a day..why because I care...about her and no matter how much she hates me I always will care. We have even fought about tips for waitress and gets ugly..that is BPD

[scarlet135]

THEY ALL TALK ABOUT CONSULTING A PSYCHIATRIST, I DON'T KNOW WHY ARE WE EVEN ASKING THINGS HERE THEN?

[Jaquta]

People ask for answers and understanding and support they don't get from many health professionals.

[rBoulet]

Everyone says to see a psychiatrist if you're worried you may have a disorder because that's the only real way to tell. Nobody on here can say whether or not you have this or that, or anything at all. Not only are we not doctors or qualified to do so, but even if we were it'd be nearly impossible to accurately diagnose someone over the internet.

[savemedrp]

You should find a professional that specializes in Personality Disorders. He/She can diagnose you properly. A lot of Mental Health Professionals are too incompetent and/or asinine to deal with BPD.

Another good book is by Rachel Reiland and it is called something like "Help Get me Out of Here". Just Google the author and you'll find the book.

After reading it, I found a psychiatrist that specialized in BPD. The real shocker was that the psychiatrist in the book turned out to be the psychiatrist I had chosen! I sort of suspected that the author was from my city, but it was just a hunch. I wasn't trying to find that particular psychiatrist. It just happened.

In our initial consultation, I asked him if he had heard of the book because the book is what prompted me to find a psychiatrist that specialized in BPD. He said he had. I asked him if he happened to know what city it took place in and he confirmed that it did indeed take place in my city. I asked him if he knew the psychiatrist. I about fell out of my chair when he said I am the "Dr. Padgett" she is referring to. He said she was his patient and she is doing really well and fully recovered.

[sam392]

Do you ever really fully recover from BPD?  

[eonkshabonk27]

you are asking questions here to get support from people who feel like you and go throught the same problems. This is not a dr office its not a place to get diagnosed for free.It is a place to join together with people in your shoes so you dont feel like your doing this all alone! its a place to go when everyone around you is completley unaware of what your feeling so they are acting like your crazy.its a place to go to get a proverbial hug when you feel like crying and screaming out for "no reason"

[solipsist]

I have been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and the more and more I research this further, it feels more like BPD. I have been misdiagnosed several times and put on medications that made me more looney tunes than I already was, Totally going  with "savemedrp " on really getting a doctor that knows their business, and not going to put you on some pills that will make your hair thin out........ I need to re-access myself.

[savemedrp]

Good for you! Unfortunately, many Psych Docs hate BPD patients! A good friend of mine has a brother who is a respected Psych. I asked him about the illness - did not let him know I had been diagnosed with it, of course. He went on abt how horrible people with BPD are. "uncurable" @sshole!!!!!!!!!!!

So impt to get a GOOD Psych doctor! When it comes to BPD, you need the best of the best, not just any loser who got a Psych Degree and went through Med School.

I hate to rip on Psych Docs, but a lot are completely useless and knew they would never make it as a Doc in any other field! What a bunch of tools!

Good luck to you! We CAN RECOVER. There are those of us recovering EVERY DAY little by little! Just find the right Psych Doc!!!!

[savemedrp]

Sorry for the delayed response, but I'm not getting emails even though I clicked on the "Add to watch list".

REMEMBER: I am a patient with BPD - not a professional!!!

I have read and I suspect many don't recover fully because it takes several years of therapy. They drop out. I might have to if insurance runs out.

I am so much better off though than when I started in therapy so if I have to stop, at least I have the knowledge I've gained from my session up until now! And, I will never fall into some of the behaviors that landed me in trouble before!

I believe my doctor completely, and he said Rachel Reiland (not her real name of course), the author of "Get Me Out of Here" recovered completely. I believe him.

It makes sense to me that recovery involves several years of "reparenting". If you are able to afford it and commit to it, you can recover. I've given up a lot to afford it. I don't have TV and internet or texting on my phone. I don't eat out like I used to, and I don't go to the spa like I used to for massages, pedicures, and manicures! I will be driving the same car for probably 10 years - very reliable -a Scion. Other than my mortgage, utilities, and basic expenses, I have nothing else to pay for because recovering from BPD is my ultimate goal. I am happy to make these small sacrifices so I can afford therapy!

In my sessions with my Doctor, I just free associate. I can't explain exactly what about it that works other than it is truly like having a surrogate father parenting me.

It takes someone approx 18 yrs to be totally on there own so if your parent seriously dropped the ball through neglect and abuse, it's going to take some time for any doctor to "reparent" you. BUT I BELIEVE 100% IN THE PROCESS!!!!

I don't do DBT, but I from what I have heard, it sounds good! I strictly stick with Free Association with my Doc and Journaling on my own. It is definitely working! Things are going well so I have not looked into DBT in depth. That is just a personal choice. It sounds like a good thing to look into.

I hope this helps and I hope it has convinced you that WE CAN RECOVER FULLY FROM BPD!!!