heroine cravins

please help me i feel so helpless my fiance  by the way we are getting married 10/10/10  is trying so hard to stop using heroine he never shot it he snorts it but to me its the same thing i myself am a former cocaine addict 15yrs clean thank god . he is on suboxene and he still gets really bad cravings i never in my life used heroine so i dont really understand what he is going thru well when i stoped using coke i had cravings but i fought them off i feel bad for him because he cant stop the cravings which leads him to relpase and where back to stage 1 i love him dearly but am afraid to live my life with a junkie i am 47yrs old i put the drug scene behind me a long time ago by the way he did not tell me it was heroine until a year later he was in a car accident and i thought he was addicted to pain killers. he was my only true love 27 yrs ago he was my 1st boyfriend help !

[janice150]

First off you may want to try a substance abuse forum. Readers there may have more experience dealing with such emotions.

I can tell you that after living with my pill popping alcoholic husband of 17 yrs, who I absolutely adored and probably would still be with today, if it wasn't for the fact that he decided to have an affair, is an absolute tragedy !!!!!

I thank God every day for that affair. It released me from that prison. I have been on my own now for 6 years and I raised my 4 children, 2 thru their teens and one is now 15 and struggling with weed.

I too am 47, he was my soulmate. I beleive even today that I will probably never replace him. but I'm still better offf being alone than being inside that craziness. Looking back it really never was a relationship, it was always about him trying to stay clean and me trying to help him do that and keeping life around him as stress free as possible. Yeah try doing that with 4 children, never a conflict eating my anger, my resentment all my emotions for almost 2 decades!!!

Good luck to you my dear, but if I was you, I'd think long and hard, take a good hard look at why your even in this relationship...what are you getting out of it, what is it that he is doing for you?? Marriage is a promise not to be taken lightly, so before you commit, be prepared for your jail sentence....