stage 4 breast cancer

My mom has stage 4 breast cancer that has matastised to the bones and then the liver. How much longer will she live and how is this going to progress. I need someone to tell me what to expect. Thank you teri

[Kemal]

First,
I am sorry for your pain.  Clinical prognosis is available if you choose to ask your Oncologist.  Remember that clinical prognosis is a statitacal guideline. The choices of treatment to stablize the cancer, reduce tumor buden, identify the best pain management (pain medicine and / or radiation theropy), are the questions you and your Mom will need to explore.

Please spend time with her, be open with family members who want the news. Respect your Mom's right to view herself as a possible survivor.  We never know what treatment will be effective and that hope will help her to live longer.

My wife was a survivor until she passed away on September 3rd.  I was told at the beginning that if the treatment was not effective she would died within 4-6 months.  The treatment was effective and we had my wife longer but of course not long enough.

Never give up!  Make sure you ask questions of the Oncologist and understand your options for treatment.  Find an Oncologist who you and your Mom are comfortable with.  If she needs to see more then one doctor make sure the communication between the doctors is clear...you may have to be the person who provides the medical records from one doctor to the other.  Never give up!

Spend time, take videos if that is what you want.  This is a new normal.  Cancer is an ugly beast but you can give you Mom a quality of life while she battles this disease to make her feel normal.  That was what my wife always wanted...is to live a normal life as she battle the disease.

My God fold his arms around your family.

Kemal

[slee56]

Sorry to hear your wife passing Kemal and also the news about your mom Teri. As a Breast cancer fighter myself I can relate to both of you. I am thankful to really just be here and live each day to the fullest. Spending time with my family is priceless and grab any chance there is to enjoy the little things in life. If you were to read my journals you would know the struggles I have had . Make that we as my dear sweet hubby is there with me every step of the way. The chemo caused a lot of what seems to be nerve damage I had Everything but the kitchen sink removed  from me LOL. and still have a terrible pain ( much like gallbadder attacks but worse).I had my GB out on may 18th 09. Two weeks after that happened I was so sick throwing up an aweful yellow type foamy bile type stuff. In fact I suffered an acute rib fracture from vomiting so much??Since then I have been seeming to become really ill about every 15 days or so. This month was to the dr on September 1st with such a bad headache and vomiting yellow bile lots.... I had recived a shot for pain and one for vommiting. I went to see the surgon who did a few of my surgeries and he put me on prylosic a PPI  Then on the weekend of September 19th  I belive that I may have a condition now called SOD (spinchter of oddi dysfuntion) which is caused pressure restricting the comman bile duct in my liver. Sometimes it can be cause by nerons and hormones reacting and I can realate to the cycle thing.Anyway on Fri the 2nd of Oct I am scheduled for an MRCP. I have had a lot of tests done the one CT scan of the abdomen did show a 7mm heptic cyst on my liver which shouldn't be causing pain??? The pain is worse after I eat something so have been eating small good choice of foods yoghurt with Alive appple cinnamon shakes, keeping mindful of nutrition and no sugar. Well i need to get ready to go meet my daughter and watch the youngest granddaughter while DD goes to the dentist. So yes i get out and about actually makes me feel better to be out and doing something rather then setting around worring about the knife like pain. At least I can walk better after the cortasone shot in my right foot to relive a Nerve entrapment called a Neurmoa b-4 that had a bad pain in the bottom of my foot. I guess you knid of know it feels like we sometimes climb up a MT and then all we see is more mts after that..... Slee56