I was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer. I have 1 mass that is 3.5 and a cyst that is 2.5 - not in the lymph nodes - just got back the BRAC test - everything good there. My Doctor and husband are both pushing for a lumpectomy and radiation. I feel that being so young (43) that a mastecomy is right since I have so long to live that I don't want to have to worry about it coming back. Plus if it does come back - if will come off anyway.
Both my husband and Doctor feel that least invasive, no real time off of work... I work with my husband in our own business and also cut hair for a living..my husband thinks, ok work during the day, get radiation in the evening, life continues as normal, sleep all night. Still do housework, dinners, etc. No big difference in life.
I guess my question is, do I make the decision with MY gut or follow what the Doctor reccommmend, since he IS the Specialist in this? AND is a regular life possible during radiation treatments?
First, you can get another cancer and/or your original cancer can spread during chemo. How ugly of a thought is that! My cancer spread to my nodes during chemo because I couldn't have surgery until it shrunk considering the size of my 10 cm mass. Chemo has an accumulating effect and it takes time to shrink and/or stop cancer cells. And right now you don't know if it's cancer, if it's the same type of cancer or a new type of cancer that won't respond to herceptin. It's totally possible to have two different types of cancer.
It's always good to know exactly where the naughty tissue in question is, how deep it goes and what type of cells surround it so that when a mastectomy is done it gets ALL of it. During my mastectomy they ended up going into the chest wall removing half the layer to get clear margins. This is ALL IMPORTANT, you don't want any naughty cells remaining. Pathology of the breast tissue from biopsy and mastectomy will be done and you will get this report from your surgeon about a week later. They will want the biopsy first though so if you're adamant about not wanting it get prepared for the argument above and perhaps others. Yes, you can have both removed.
You know my response to should I have bilateral mastectomies so I won't reiterate it.
I just wish you the best and I know you're scared out of your mind with this. You can do this. You need to have confidence in whatever choice YOU make for YOUR body. Whatever you do will be the best decision for YOU, no regrets!
Thanks for your words of wisdom, again! I am scared out of my mind this time! I guess I will have to wait until Tuesday to talk to the doctor, then make the decision. I know this doctor is all about conserving what you can....but I am all about getting it out and being done with this part of my life! My husband said it is totally up to me. He has no thoughts either way, that I have to feel right about what happens!
I was unaware that chemo had to build up in order to work.... that is kind of deceiving. I thought I was safe while taking chemo. I thought that even if something was left behind, even if it started to grow, the chemo would attack it and kill it. That is a little bit of false hope.
I have been looking on the internet for pictures, of a mastectomy, without reconstruction, and there doesn't seem to be a "norm" of how it will look. Some are hideous, some look nice...... So I guess it all depends on how good your doctor is, and what you have. I have seem some videos about reconstruction, and really don't think I want to go that route. Plus that seems like an very long time to be in surgery! ( I am scared of not waking up!)
Oh well I guess only time will tell. I think I will go gambling this weekend and have a good time!
Talk to you soon,
Lisa, it's rare that cancer spreads during chemo. Chemo attacks the fastest growing cells first. But if it's a more aggressive type like a HER2 + cancer the chance is there that it will spread. But I want you to know it is NOT common that it spreads.
I'll send you a dollar if you'll make a bet for me!
Well, I did go gambling... and WON!!! my husband doesn't like to gamble, but he took me anyway with my sister and her ex husband,. We had a BLAST! Ate good! laughed a lot! Had a really good time. And when I asked my husband how much he lost, and when I was able to give it back to him, and tell him we had 65 plus, he smiled a BIG smile! SO it was a good weekend! I should have gotten that dollar from you!
"But if it's a more aggressive type like a HER2 + cancer the chance is there that it will spread. But I want you to know it is NOT common that it spreads. "
I did have HER2+ cancer......... did the surgeon miss some, or could it be another type? My first thought is that it is nothing, but as I was explaining it to my daughter, I kind of thought if this is nothing, I would not have gotten a call from the doctor so quickly( I wasn't even home yet from the office!) SO I am writing all of my questions down for the surgeon tomorrow....
If I got through and do have the "girls" removed, do I need to start chemo all over? Or if I have a lumpectomy, will I have to do chemo again? Obviously, I am not sure I want to start that all over, I just finished! I am REALLY scared because the first time I went through this, it didn't show on a mammogram, only on ultrasound, and the surgeon had to go deeper than thought and THIS time nothing showed on the mammogram, only on the ultrasound, so my thought is, maybe he didn't go deep enough..OH so many what ifs. I wish tomorrow would come already!
Hi. popvender321!. I have been reading your journey - and can certainly empathize with you and the uncertainty, anxiety and many questions.
I have just had a radical modified mastectomy 3 weeks ago... after have a surgical biopsy done 8 years prior. My decision was east for me.
I get a chuckle that you went gambling.... that is exactly what I did the day I received my diagnosis...I didn't want to think anymore and I couldn't find a better way than to push buttons and listen to all the noise.
Anyway, I hope you don't mid that I follow you in your journey and post now and again.
Just to keep you current with my diag.....there was no cancer in my nodes - the dr did remove 3 Sentinel nodes. The pathology reports I am ER+ (3, strong). I hope that I don't have to have Chemo; my Surgeon thinks I will have Hormone Therapy.
Anyway, my first appointment with the Oncologist is this Wednesday (Apr 6).
Boy it has been a tough weekend! I went to get the biopsy done yesterday, and guess what? They couldn't find whatever it was they were supposed to be biopsying! They found about 5 or 6 "cysts" but not what they were looking for. So of course, they did nothing. I don't know if this is good news, or bad news. Plus I don't get that they are just leaving the cysts alone? When my surgeon examined me, he thought it was 3 cm away from my nipple, but the person who read the film said 5 cm. so they were concentrating on that area.....when I told them what my surgeon said, they dismissed me........oh I hate that..... I hate when people think because they have a certificate, that they know more than me about MY body.... I am not sure if my surgeon will want a follow up - since there is nothing to follow up on, but when I do see him again, I am going to let him know how pissed I am about that.
Now they did bring in a different ultrasound tech, and she re did an ultrasound, and she couldn't find it either, but, when I asked her about all of the cysts, she said, they are just cysts, no big deal... Oh how I hate that
I also hate this tingling in my hands and feet....when is this going to go away? AND I have gained 19 lbs from this ordeal.when is THAT going away? I am still so puffy from the steroids. My step daughter is getting married on April 30th, and the dress I bought before my diagnosis doesn't fit, so now I have to go out and buy a new one. I hate this damn cancer. I wish it was over...I want it to be done. I want my old life back. I am tired of treatments, I am tired of being tired, I am tired of hot flashes, I am tired of not sleeping a whole night, I am just tired..................................
SORRY, I had to get that off my chest! I don't talk like this often, but today is not a good day for me, as I am so confused as to what NOT finding that means....was it a cyst that has burst and disappeared, or is it something that is still growing inside of me only to show its ugly head another day??!!
Thanks for listening,
Oh I forgot to ask a question..........
My cancer was on the left side. Lately when I try to reach up with me left arm, it is painful. Not too bad, but it feels like I am straining or pulling my muscle, and sometimes it hurts like on the rib cage under my breast. Is this just everything coming back to normal?
Threperipheral neuropathy (tingling, etc., in the extremities) can take a while to go away, or, unfortunately, in some cases, it can be permanent.
The swelling/puffiness from the steroids will gradually disappear, but maybe not by the wedding date.
The pain in the arm might be from unavoidable nerve damage r/t your surgery, and normally diminishes over time. Are you noticing any swelling in that arm? If so, that can signal developing lymphedema, which should be treated at the earliest time (by a lyphmedema therapist, using massage and compression) to keep it to a minimal level.
I am going to send you an artcle in a private message that you will surely be able to relate to. (It's called "When the treatment is worse than the Cure.")
In regard to the wedding, I understand YOU are concerned about looking your best. But it sounds as though you have a close and loving family, and I'm sure what will matter to EVERYONE ELSE, including your stepdaughter, is that you will be there, alive and well. And that hopefully, as the result of all the uncomfortable treatment and painful procedures you have gone through, that will continue to be the case for a long, long time--including being able to attend her son or daughter's wedding sometime far in the future!
Thank you for your always kind words of encouragement! I know that my step daughter is just happy that I will be there....i asked her a while ago which she would prefer, hair - no hair, hair just like my old hair, or something new. She responded that she didn't care, just as long as I was there! She made me cry - you see, we didn't always get along!! (imagine that - a step daughter and a step mom NOT getting along!!!!)
But anyways.... thanks for your help.
I went to have a treatment yesterday, and told my nurse what had happened with the biopsy, and that I had not heard back from the surgeon, only his nurse. I told her I was unsure as to what to do now, she went and told my doctor.. she came out and talked with me for about a half an hour and told me that she is recommending that I see the surgeon again to discuss a double mastectomy. She feels that with what has been happening, and what she feels will happen that it is the best course of action for me now. I was like wow knock me over with a feather!
Of course this is what I wanted from the beginning, but now that she has said it out loud, I am not sure what I am feeling! A whole new set of feelings are coming my way! Reconstruct? No reconstruction? Bigger? The same size? So many decisions now!
I am reading all I can about it now, and trying to find pictures to see to compare. BUT, I think any advise I can get from this board will help. SO - I am asking for advice on this decision.
Reconstruct or not? - -Bigger or not ? - - Wait for reconstruction or at the same time as mastectomy?
The wedding was FABULOUS!!!! My husband's ex wife really made me feel comfortable being the other "Mom" - I was scared about that whole thing! My step daughter was beautiful! My new son in law was great! The food was so good I went and got seconds! Just a REALLY great weekend! BUT the best part was - no talk of cancer! It was good to get away from all of that for a few days!
And now back to reality! I have a decision to make, and I really need help with some questions that I have......
I just re read the Trans Flap vs Implants, and I am more confused than ever!
With a double mastectomy, with immediate reconstruction, What is done immediately? Is that when they would put in silicone implants? Or is that when they put in saline "bags" ? Or is it either? And if they can do that immediately, then why all of the talk about the expanders? Or do you have to use the expanders when it is not immediate?
As for the recovery time, I have seen that it takes 6-8 weeks to recover. Is that the scars take that long, or are you in bed that long? If I can be up and around, possibly back to work recovering just my scars, as a Barber, am I going back to work quickly, or am I not going to be able to work at all
And what about the drains I keep hearing about? What's that all about?
And if I get the double mastectomy, but decide NOT to get reconstruction, what are the scars like? Are they little scars or are they big scars?
Thanks for any help. I go to the surgeon next Tuesday, and I want to have some answers for him so we don't dawdle on this.......
I guess, I want kind of a play by play explanation of this procedure?
p.s. Sorry! Didn't realize until after I posted that you had already read one of these. (When I first read your post I took it as just meaning you had been reading in general about the Trans Flap procedure.)
I went to the surgeon the other day, and after waiting for him for 45 minutes, here was our conversation:
he came in and said, I see they couldn't do the biopsy, I guess whatever it was went away. So why are you here?
I said that my Oncologist was suggesting a bilateral mastectomy, and I was here to discuss it.
Who is your Oncologist?
I told him, Dr. Paun
Oh, I don't know who that is I don't see any reason for that to happen, I mean you aren't even done with treatment yet, you did well with the chemo, I took your small amount of cancer out. I don't expect it to come back. Why would he tell you to do that?
First of all.. it is a SHE. I told him that she recommends it because of the difficulties that I have been having since. the scares.
Well it really has been nothing to speak of, I don't think you need it.
I said, I have been talking to some people, and they cannot believe that I still have them
Well, that is a very invasive surgery, and one that you really have to think about, and blah blah blah....... then he said I think you should talk to some professional people..
I said I talked with my Oncologist, I talked with my nurses, I have talked with other who have been where I am..
He said, no I think you need to talk to Dr. Somethingberger.... he is your doctor, the one I am partnered with, and then you should see a psychologist, or a psychiatrist, and then you need to see the plastic surgeon and then if they all agree, then we can talk about doing it, but I think you need to finish your treatments first.
I then asked....... why is it that all of these MEN want me to keep my boobs, but all of the women that I talk to can't understand why I still have them?
he said who thinks that
I said - my Oncologist, my nurses, other who have been where I am....
he didn't say anything
I said, but I have 3 more Herceptin treatments, and my radiation was put on hold until we get this cleared up, because I thought you couldn't reconstruct on radiated breasts. why would I go into radiation, if I was going to remove/reconstruct?
again - no answer
I walked out crying and thinking oh great, now I am crazy! I went to my treatment, and was crying and the nurse told me to go to another surgeon, and gave me the name of a female surgeon.........tomorrow I am calling her to get a second opinion. Am I right in feeling that I have been wronged by this doctor?
Sorry this is so LONG....... I don't know if I am over reacting oh yea, my surgeon made reference to me in the beginning wanting to do this from the start, and he was against it then too.I am a bundle of confusion right now...maybe I don't need them off. What if I am just a worry wort. Am I over reacting.. Am I cured for good now and don't need to go any further with this?
My Oncologist was supposed to call me back, but hasn't....
Thanks for listening,
I am sorry you had to deal with such a paternalistic approach!
He had every right to offer his professional opinion or even to refuse to remove a "healthy" breast if that is his stance, but it sounds as though his discussion with you was as much personal as professional.
I think it is a wonderful idea for you to consult another surgeon.
I am glad you are doing well so far, but with invasive BC, "cured for good" cannot be relied upon, and since you were HER2 + there is an added risk for recurrence over HER2 - status. One of our members, Cheerpul, has written extensively about her decision to go the route you are considering. I hope she will chime in with her views on what you just went through with your surgeon, but if not, going to her profile page and going through her posts might give you some sup[port from someone who has "been there, done that," and is happy with her decision.
Bluebutterfly sent me a message and here I am- I can refuse her nothing. I have been working 3 jobs and going like crazy - but then you know there are always doctor bills. (Shrugs and laughs) Now, I am all yours. Wow, our cases are fairly similar and I live only about 3 hours from you, west of Toledo OH. I had extensive comedo-type DCIS, barely b-cups, opted for a mastectomy and then found a .5 cm tumor that was ER/PR+ and Her2 positive. After much research (there isn't much out there) I decided that chemo would be prudent (Oncotype score 31 due only to the Her2 gene.)
I took carboplatin, taxotere and herceptin, had nearly every side effect, but worked full-time anyway, was tired and sick, bald and diahrrea, but sang in two choirs every week (mental therapy) and did almost no housework or dinners for about 4.5 months.
I felt better, grew hair, worked about 75 hours a week (supervising 7 counties for the Census bureau and as an historic cook and supervisor in a living history museum, Sauder Village, in Archbold OH) and got back into life. Last December, I had a second prophylactic mastectomy. I brought it up with my surgeon and asked - "Paranoia or prudence?" He said "Prudence." For every percentage of breast tissue that remove, you lessen your chances of breast cancer coming back. (So I' better than 95% free.) BUT, cancer can still come back elsewhere. He suggested that I talk to my oncologists. I have one local and one at University of Michigan Cancer Center. They both said, "Great idea!" I asked, "Then why am I the one bringing this up?" Well, it seems that the docs (all 3) are concerned about being accused of coercion in a lawsuit. It is not that it is a bad idea for a Her2 positive lady.
Why is there this movement away from mastectomies toward lumpectomies? Who knows? Probably because, on paper, it seems less invasive; more normal. For some folks it is a good idea. For others, not. There is no one correct answer.
Your breasts are yours, the decision comes down to you. This is my thought process and why I chose two mastectomies. I am a very practical person. I am a short, overweight 48-year-old who looks more like a German aunt than anything else. (My photo is from my museum where I am an 1840's Amish-Mennonite lady often.) I never had cleavage and haven't missed it since I was in high school and saw a well-endowed friend with indents in her shoulders and back pain. (Just so you know why I am not attached to my bosom.) Because of this attitude, when the Doc said that I had a lot of the high-grade DCIS, I said please just do a mastectomy. Two days later, thanks to a cancellation, it was done. Thank God we did, or I don't know when we'd have found the tumor, which had not shown up on mammograms, spot-compression mammograms, or ultrasounds.
I wanted the best chance for a once-in-a-lifetime cancer experience, so I went with chemo. I also opted for the second mastectomy. Now, my docs and I have known each other awhile, I cook for them when I have appointments, and we've had long conversations. They know my mental state and my thought process. All my surgeries are in Defiance OH, a small town Mercy hospital, where I have a fabulous surgeon. My oncologists work together between Defiance and Ann Arbor fairly well, but not seamlessly and my primary care physician is actively involved. You have to be your own advocate, because doctors are still influenced, even when they don't want to be, by lawyers, insurance companies, ideologies (lumpectomy is best....) and so on. You do research on factual sights, ask questions and go until they tell you what they really think. (Hard to get to that point for some of them.) I've been asked, "Do you want me(oncologist)
to make the decision for you?" I said, "No, I can make a decision, but my degrees are in music. I want to know what you reccommend, and why, and your thought process, since you've been an oncologist for 20 years or so. Based on what you have seen happen, what would you choose?"
I haven't had to fight them as you have. Nor have I had a problem with my insurance covering these treatments. I am sorry that you have had so many conflicting and not supportive opinions. It is hard enough to go through without that, too. I will say that my husband stays out of my way in the decision, is very supportive about housework and taking our daughters places, but is almost totally unsupportive in emotional matters. His statement, when I asked what he thought about mastectomy #2 was, "I don't want to watch you go through that again."
It's been 1.5 years since I began and about 5 months since my second mastectomy. How are things now? After the first mastectomy, I went back to work in 1 week with permission if I did not lift or cook in iron pots. :) After the second, I went back in 5 days, but did not lift for a few weeks. I am not having reconstruction. (That is another issue fraught with problems for many.) I have ordered the largest prosthetics possible, so that I can wear them in plays where I am often cast as a buxom woman.) I have one thin, pale pink scar across my chest on the left side and a medium pink scar on my right. I look "blanked out" (no nipples) but not disturbing. I am enjoying going braless and am going to have a bra-burning party this summer where we will burn a bra and papers with all the things that my guests would like to put behind them and no longer drag around with them. Because I have done all that I can to prevent further cancer, I go to all my checkups, but do not worry about cancer returning. I just work hard, sing and enjoy every day.
You can add me as a friend, write back, send me a message or ask questions and I will do whatever I can for you. The decision-making part is the hardest, especially in your situation. I am praying for you. Shellee
Wow is all I can say! Thanks so much for all of the useful information. I am so distraught about all of this, that when I talked to the secretary today, and she asked me who did my treatment the other day, I couldn't remember...... my mind is just not working....although my brain hasn't worked well since I started the chemo!!!
But anyway, the more I think about it, the more pissed off I get. Almost like how dare he make me think I am crazy for wanting this done, that I need to talk it through with a man to get me head straight.
It seems like I have the only doctor in the states that feels like HER + cancer is no big deal.I was looking through a report given to me by me female oncologist, and there are so many trigger words. I can't understand why he thinks so differently than me.words such as but not limited to, heterogeneously dense, area of concern, palpable concern, poorly defined hypo echoic mass... of course these all sound bad to me as I do not know what they mean!
I too have all along said I wanted this to be a "once in a lifetime experience", but all I hear from this surgeon is, I did my job and now you are better.... I looked his name up on google, and all it says is he is a MD, it doesn't say anything about his specialty being cancer surgery, just MD, so now I am wondering if he really is the right guy for the job, even if he does end up agreeing with me!
I am waiting for my doctor to call me back, and her nurse was on vacation this week, so neither of them have called.......thank you very much!!!! (slightly sarcastic!)
I don't even know if I am interested in having reconstruction, as I really don't want to go through all of the waiting to finish that! But I do know myself, and I probably wouldn't want to be bothered with the fake ones in my bra, but then again, I don't want to be flat chested either.So not to many options there! I don't know if there is a way to go into surgery, get the "girls" taken off, and wake up from surgery with the new and improved me!!??
I did just do a look up of the doctor that the nurse suggested I call, and it would seem that she is VERY versed in the breast cancer area. She has some kind of program that she has started, I didn't read it too much, but I think I will call her on Monday, even just to have a second opinion.THEN, if she says the same as the MAN doctor, I will leave it alone, but if she says differently, I will go with her for the surgery!
OH boy, I thought my days of thinking of this every minute was behind me, but I guess it is not!
Have a great weekend,
Thanks for your help,
OH yea, after all of that I forgot to ask everyone..... my left side, the side that had cancer is weird....I know all about the tingly feeling being, oh what is that word? anyway I haven't seen it discussed too much, but here is my question. I have had tingly fingers, and have been barely able to feel my toe nails when I try to cut them. But now, my left hand feels swollen, my wrist and forearm are about 1/4 inch bigger than my right....could be because I am left handed, but not sure. But also my 2 middle fingers feel like they are about to burst when I close my hand.And the tips are so sensitive. and the bottom knuckle and about an inch into my hand ... kind of burn. I was having a hard time with my arms, both of them. I usually sleep on my side, first one side then the other, not I have to sleep on my back because when I do, my shoulders hurt SO BAD. On several mornings, I have woken up with my arms above my head (another favorite way to sleep) and I have to move my arms down about an inch at a time because I am in so much pain.
Does all of this sound "normal" to you?
Not "normal," but, unfortunately, fairly common...
The tingling you had could be related to (unavoidable) nerve damage during your surgery, lymphedema (swelling from problems with drainage of lymphatic fluid) can develop in the arm anytime following surgery, and some chemos can cause neuropathy (nerve problems) esp. in the extremities, so there are several possibilities to be considered in regard to your recent symptoms.
Discuss these symptoms with your doctor(s), as well as have them examine the swollen arm, because if you are developimg lymphedema, early treatment (provided by specially trained message therapists) is very important to keep it under control.
To add to Bluebutterfly, any time you have a wierd symptom, you should contact your doctor(s). There are usually explanations and treatments to make it go away or help you cope. Don't ignore it and "soldier on" when it can be better.
Sounds a lot like lymphedema, especially if you had a number of nodes removed. There are definitely early treatments for that.
Take care - Shellee
I am not sure if I should start a new thread for this, but....
Last night I went to a fund raiser (bowling for boobies - for a friends walking in Komen Walk) anyway I bowled 2 games, and kind of felt "hurt" during the second game. I am left handed and that is the side I had my cancer on... I had my surgery in October, but after the games, I had well it is hard to explain, but a little pain in that arm. I bowl with a 12lb. ball. Is this something that I should not have done? Do I have to give up bowling forever? Or just a little while longer? I never thought of this until yesterday, and then someone else said, they were told to not even carry their purse on that side ever again!? SO do I have to baby my left side for the rest of my life?
Lisa who is smiling big, because we FINALLY have some sunshine!
You are very brave and quite foolishly so I might add. I personally would NEVER engage in this type of activity on the operative side and I doubt that it would ever be approved by any of your Dr.s. I suggest that you start leaning to bowl right handed if you intend to continue in this sport. I don't mean to sound harsh but the price you may have to pay would be too high for me when compared to bowling. Forget the "a little while longer" part too; this would be a lifelong issue. Take care now and try that ball in the other hand ....
hhhhhmmmm.... I guess I did not know this. I don't remember them telling me I can't ever do things like this. I will follow orders, but I didn't know. What kind of problems could I have caused? What else do I have to give up on with this new lifelong issue? My work involves lifting packages, sometimes up to 75-80 lbs. am I supposed to not lift those? Is there a weight limit that I should be aware of? I REALLY don't want to mess myself up. Is there somewhere I can look this up?
Thanks for opening my eyes to this,
Hi there, I just have been following your journey! My mom's going thru a similiar one at age 82. She has neuropathy really bad with the tingling and pain then on top of it lymphedema. If you get a true diagnosis of lymphedema you would qualify for treatment under the 1998 breast cancer act. Treatment is called combined decongestive therapy and it feels great like a masage! A specially trained therapist moves the fluid out of the congested area and you are wrapped to keep it out. You are taught how to do the bodywork yourself and how to wrap, maybe skin brushing, home care and graduate to a sleeve which is a compression sleeve. I have lymphedema full body almost. I'm a survivor too but only had lumpectomy. Mom had masectomy right side last August and this Jan lumpectomy left side. We are brca 1 and brca 2 positive. Tina
I went back and read some previous posts and Lymphedema was mentioned in one of them. This is the issue I'm referring to and I suppose you weren't given many restrictions (although I thought I read something about not lifting over 10 lbs, but I could be wrong as it may have been something that was mentioned by someone who answered you) is that many Dr.s (including my own Surgeon by the way) don't even believe that LE exeists. Believe me IT DOES !!! It can occur anytime following any interruption of the lymphatic system which would be when even one lymph node is removed. Another disgusting feature of LE is that it can occur many years after the surgery.There are many precautions and you might just put Lyphedema in search .... LE has a website where much information can be obtained. I don't believe in going "over the top" with the precautions but some make very good sense and your mention of lifting 75-80 lbs sounds like something I would be cautious about. LE is no fun and once you have it, you have it for life even though it can be treated by various methods of massage, wrapping, compression garments (sleeves and/or gloves) by a specially trained Physical Therapist. Let's hope your bowling result was just too much activity and NOT LE related. Do be careful though, OK ?? Take care ......
Thanks for you r input. I have already decided to talk to my doctors about the swelling and such to see if something can be done. I took all of my rings off of both hands and feel so naked! The feet seem to be a little better, not all gone, but better than they were. But my hands are not stopping with the tingling and the pain. It is mostly the burning that is making me nuts!
With being BRAC positive, why didn't they remove both breasts for you and your Mom? I thought that was kind of standard for BRAC +?
I thought the 10 lb rule was for while you were healing up. Do you mean that is for the rest of my life??!! My purse sometimes weighs more than 10 lbs!! I will look into LE more, as I did do some reading on it, but not a whole lot. I guess that even though I thought I was going into this eyes wide open, I have had the blinders half on. I need to read some more!
That's easy to do ..... LE was the ONE thing I most dreaded and I know that sounds ridiculous when you're dealing with BC but that's the way I felt about it. Carry the purse on the other side .... I do and even though I admit that I'm probably NOT as careful as I should be, I do try to keep it in mind and make adjustments when I can and NOT overdo when I can avoid it. If you have the opportunity to speak to a Therapist who specializes in LE treatment it would be an eye-opening experience. Take care now ........
OK Ladies, I have my surgery scheduled for July 18th! My daughter's graduation is the 17th! I am scared and excited in the same thought! The docs have finally agreed with me - so I am having a bi-lateral mastecomy with reconstruction.
I have found another lump in my "good" breast and don't know if I should tell them about it ahead of the surgery or just wait. Any ideas???
Also, I have to give them a final answer about HOW I want to reconstruct. In looking at all of the ways to do it, I don't think I saw one that said an implant along with some of my own like stomach tissue and fat. Is there such a thing?They told me I don't have enough in my stomach for only using that, but I was wondering if they could do it using both? Anyone know?
My docs put me on Lyrica for the neuropathy, and it seems to have worked some.... I still feel like I am working with band-aids on my fingers, but it is getting better! I have been having some of the common side effects from the drug, but I am not sure they are bad enough to quit taking them.
I have had my last treatment of herceptin!! WOOO HOOO !!! And I am feeling pretty good these days!
I hope everyone is doing great and will check back for answers soon!
I think I would mention the new lump before the surgery; it's nice to know what you're "getting into" even tough you're having a Bilateral. I suppose you have seee the plastic Surgeon regarding your reconstruction and he/she would be the best one to advise as to which procedure would be most appropriate for you. Wishing you the very best for a successful surgery and uneventful recovery. Congratulations to your Daughter on her Graduation too. Regards ....
It has been a while ... I thought I would update! I had my bilateral with expansions put in last Monday. I am feeling really good. I am draining only very little, and have very little pain, actually no pain, just a little pressure every now an then. I was in the hospital only for about 26 hours total and was up and running around by the 3rd day! I don't like the way the scares look, so I am hoping that they will pretty up in time! They aren't straight or even. (some encouragement is needed here!!??) Some good news is that the pathology report came back negative! So all of the lumps we were finding were nothing!
I hate it that I cannot get right back into work..I work as a barber and they said no work for 2 weeks minimum. I can't do laundry - which is in a pile as tall as I am! And the floors are getting kind of dirty! BUT oh well..if my kids aren't going to do it for me, I won't worry about it!
On the bright side, I am going to Chicago to see Joel Osteen on the 6th, and I am SO EXCITED! It will be a long car ride, but he is worth it! (we live in the Cleveland area)
Just wanted to update you all in case you were wondering!
Talk to you all soon!
Great to hear from you .... it all sounds good but I'm not surprised about your disappointment regarding the scars. Give it a couple years and then if you're still unhappy go for a scar revision. Don't rush the going back to work or any of the "chores" they will all wai for you and it's worth the aggravation. Enjoy your trip to Chicago and I hope it cools off some by then.. Take care and Congrats on a job well done !!
Thanks for updating us--I had been wondering how you were doing!
As japdip mentioed, time can do a lot for incisions "scars." They shrink, flatten, whiten, and fade for at least a year or more. After than, if you're stiil bothered by them, you could look into revision. (But if by then you are generally pleased with your new breasts, you may decide it's not worth more surgery, because not that many people see them bare--unless of course you have a side job as a stripper, LOL!)
I just got done reading your journey. We had similar type of cancer I just went more aggressive in the beginning for my peace of mind and did bilateral mastectomy. Also did reconstruction and don't let the scars or the shape scare you right now. The tissue expanders are meant to do one thing and that is expand that skin. Once you get your permanent implants they will nip and tuck you will be amazed. I even went back for nipple tattoing didnt do nipple construction.
Hey they don't look like the real thing but they fill my shirts out very nicely and noone would every know if I wasn't such an advocate telling everyone I meet. So good luck and hang in there they do get a little heavy towards the end you do have to go 30-40 percent bigger than the size you want to be at the end so don't rush it. Let your body and skin strech gently:)
OK so the Joel Osteen weekend was FANTASTIC!!! He is just amazing! We also went to the Aquarium while in Chicago. Unbelievable!!! It took us 6 hours to see it all!!! WOW is all I can say - that and I can't wait to go back again!!
I had my second fill today, and I can now see a little bit of a bump there! I have had no problems so far and very LITTLE pain! YAY! It looks like I am nearing the end of this journey!
I wanted to thank everyone for all of their help getting me through it. THANK YOU I hope that one day I can help someone else like you have done for me!
I will continue lurking here on the board and will pipe in when I can.
Thanks again, and warm wishes to all of you
I was just rereading my journey.... it seems so long ago that this started, but at the same time like it was yesterday. I wanted to thank everyone for all of their great advice while going through this. It is so funny looking back, and thinking then how I "THOUGHT" it was going to be quick and easy to get through this! It was easy, but here it is more than a year later and my life still isn't my own! BUT SOON!!!
I have just had my last fill, and am waiting for the final placements....... and of course I have a question!
silicone or saline? Any thoughts as to which is better, softer, nicer to look at, lighter???? The expanders are so heavy, I am so surprised! Will the replacements be this heavy?
Also and I know this is a dumb question, but what date do I get to use as my anniversary date for when I can say I have been 1 year cancer free? Does that come with a final appointment when they do some kind of test to find out that I have no evidence or something? Or do I use the date of my last surgery, or the first surgery? (told you it was a dumb question!!! LOL)
I would suggest you discuss the pros and cons of the various types of implants, from the perpsective of safety as well funtion/appearance, with your plastic surgeon. But other members of the forum who have "been there, done that," may have advice for you from their personal perspectives.
I believe most people figure their "cancerversery" from the date they were dx with BC.
You may want to pose the saline vs silicone question to my friends at facingourrisk.org as the majority of them choose implants for their prophyllactic surgeries. I know one of my friends couldn't achieve the projection she wanted with silicone so she chose saline and is happy.
As for your cancerversary date, that is the date you were diagnosed with cancer as BB told you. That is one date you want to celebrate for many many years to come!
I just wanted to pop in to say Happy New Years to all. And to let you know that this was our BEST Christmas ever. I had my breast replacement surgery on Dec. 14th.... I had my last treatment on the 20th........... and now they said don't come back for 3 months!!!! woo hoo! For my birthday on the 30th my husband gave me gift certificates to Victoria Secret to buy new bras to fit the new me... I have NEVER shopped there before, and splurged on $45 bras! (they better last the rest of my life!!) So very happy to have this behind me now............
I wanted to thank everyone who helped me along the way, answering all of my dumb questions, and offering such good advice - I wish I could give you all a hug.
I know how important the holidays are to you and your family (since you asked last year about the possibility of delaying treatment until after they were over), so I couldn't be more delighted to hear that this was your best Christmas ever!!
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