breastfeeding

so i am 18 weeks 5 days pregnant boyfriend is really insisting upon me breastfeeding our child (i have 3 and have never had the want or need to breast feed) he keeps telling me that its better for both of us (baby and i) i know this i have read thru information and books and anything else out there i just dont feel i can do this i like the freedom of being able to go out with friends have a drink i mean i have given up drinking since jan 08 when we started ttc and hes keepted on drinking almost everyday right in front of me is it selfish of me to not want to breastfeed and to bottle feed our child  

[prevatt77]

You don't have to give up drinking completely, you would just need to do it in moderation.  Pluse they have breast strips you can get to see if the alochol is still in your system before you breastfeed.  It is much better for the baby though, but this is a choice you have to make for yourself and what will work for you.  I BF my daughter for 2 years and I have been BF my son going on 7 months now.

[Diane1003]

Ultimately the decision is yours.  I was never breast fed and turned out just fine...  I was able to BF my son until he was 1 but I wanted to do it.  My husband supported me in that.  I'm with you on it's selfish that your boyfriend is drinking in front of you daily when it's something you've stopped for the health of your baby- bring this up to him and say that he should be going through this with you... So he should stop too!

Breast feeding is a very personal decision - I don't think anyone will fault you whatever you decide.  But - this is just my opinion!

[sweetangel7]

Totally your choice BUT something to consider...Breast feeding is not easy...it can be painful and it can test your patience with the baby latching etc.  IF you don't want to 110% do it, then you shouldn't as you will probably feel resentful and it will have the opposite effect of what your husband is trying to accomplish.