What should I do

[AnxiousGurl]

My mom is sick she has trouble walking, gets dizzy spells(mini-strokes)  and has celiacs disease (an allergy to gluten foods) I am her primary support, I drive her to the doctors when Im not working, I take her to do laundry, I help pay the bills, go grocery shopping. Yet she insists on walking to the store(with her cane) while im at work. the store is about 2 minutes driving distance, but not a safe road. She claims she goes there for the paper, but in reality she goes to get a pack of cigarettes. Ive caught her with candy (which is not gluten free) so it is like poison to her body. As mad and frustrated as I get and tell her this is no good for her, she's going to do what she wants anyway. She gets medical transportation when Im at work, she has a nurse come to the house once a month to give her a b12 shot and then a nurse comes once a week to help her clean, since I am so busy with everything, and taking care of her its hard to get things done. She's killing herself and it hurts me and drives me nuts that she doesnt seem to care about her own health, I care more than she does. she only 48 and we're close. I dont want to cut her off, but I feel like sometimes maybe I should, what should I do?

[Mother of bailey]

First of all you should know that you are a wonderful daughter, There are meny who would not ever do what you do for your mom. But there is nonthen you can do about how your mom wants to live her life, I know it hurts to see her hurting her self. But the bottom line is there is nonthen you can do, do not feel guilty about that, she knows she is hurting her self and until she wants to get well there is nonthen or anything that will stop her,unless you can prove her mentaley incapable of takeing care of her self...You just keep doning what you are doning for her, maby you will get through to her,or if you stop goning around as much maby that will give her the insentve to take care of her self,,,Im sorry if this dident help, I just wanted you to know that you are doning everything you can , and your doninng a wonderful job at it, the rest is up to your mom, God Bless!! valerie