homecare

[dor603]

My Mom is 75 yrs old. She is coming to live with me and i have quit working. I was wondering is could give some benefit for her health care,

Thank you,
doreen riddell

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[Kobuk]

Hi, have you tried social security?  I think tho that they will have to take it out of your mother's ss.  Some states have a fund for care takers.  Look under state elder care or social services.  Hope this helps.

[Tuckamore]

Hi Dor,

You are taking on a huge responsibility, bless your heart. I take care of my 80 yr old father full time in my home and my 77 yr old Mom about 60% of the time. There are many challenges.

SS offers no help for seniors other than Medicare. They will not deduct money from your Mom's SS for her medical care (or any other care) and allocate it to you either. This is a national law and to my knowledge does not change state to state. Medicare will provide some limited in home nursing care. OT and PT if your Mom qualifies.Her physician can order that, again if she qualifies.

However every state has offers some type of services for the elderly. In Wisconsin they have just begun to offer medical coverage to all low income residents. Their is a price attached to the insurance but it can be reasonable. As Kobul suggested, Social Services can provide you with that information. In my state there is very little available if the parent resides with a child and nothing to cover health care costs.

Good luck to you.
Tuck

[jlanadirah53]

Caregiving is a calling, a gift if you will.  It may not seem that way after you have been doing it past your patience point, but believe me it will get much more intense and interesting. You see beloved, you must make a decision in the beginning stages of your caregiving that you have settled all the arguments in your heart about whether or not you are doing the right thing, Heart arguments such as should you give up your life for another, will it be worth it in the long run, how much longer will this love one live, am I gonna get help from anyone else?, am I qualified and so on.  Everything you need to accomplish this goal has been put on the inside of you and all you have to do is surrender your will, your ways, your thoughts, and all your abilities to the Creator, because they will only get in the way and cause confusion and there will be no peace in your home.  This will cause the one you are caring for to be stressed, depressed, anxious, and praying for permanent relief, He or she will lose faith in you and you will begin to doubt yourself too.  Take a deep breath and pray.  Give it to the One who made us and He will give you such grace, peace,creativity/ways to make your job easier, a forgiving heart and an abundance of love for the person (s) you are caring for. Then you will have no doubts and be fully persuaded that you are called to be a caregiver. Caregivers must begin to pray for caregivers and call each other up and share ideas and support with each other. Medicare is changing, Home Care Companies will have no choice but to change and that means Caregivers will be required to pick up where these companies end. I will tell you more about that in the coming weeks.  I am praying for much love, compassion, patience, and success for not only Caregivers, but for all people all over the world.  Be good to yourself and others.  jlanadirah53  

[Tuckamore]

I have been a caregiver most of my life in one form or another. You either are or you aren't and everyone has their own approach. What works for one does not necessarily work for another. We all have different strengths.

Caring for a loved on in their home or yours 24/7 is far different than caring for ppl that you are not related to you in a facility. Medicare already does very little for seniors. 30-90 days of stopping in to check on a patient once a week is very little help and leaves everything on the caregivers plate.  

Some ppl just aren't cut out for caring for a loved one, no mater how hard they try or how much they may love that parent or person. That doesn't make them a bad person, nor less of a person. Frankly I don't want my children or anyone to sacrifice and give up their lives for me. I lived my life and they should have that liberty also. I chose to care for my parents but for my siblings that is not their choice. Again that does not make them less of a person. It just makes them different from me.  

Take Care,
Tuck

[jo929]

I have cared for my husband 9 years he had cancer of the bladder they took out kidney then he had cgemo radiation lost weight was so sick he got better then had a stroke he has been on oxygen4 yeras and does not walk even to br or kitchen he has to get to car in wheek chair he needs care 24/7 and i am it i had open heart surgery and am a senior, and sometimes i think that i cant make it medicare sends someone out to bathe and make his divan where he lives ion the divan, as he refuses to go to bedroom, he has panic attacks and wants oto be in living rom with tv on 24 hours a day i do the best i can,but he needs more, but if he went to nursing home there is no way i could pay the bills on what little soc sec i get last year before heart surgery it was not so hard but now i cant stand up to long but i am hanging in there as there is no one else yes i get aggravated and sometimes i say mean things i am so sorry after i do i did not do this until i had open heart surgery i was nicer  i wish i could give some advice, but i cant   luck to all caregivers  jo