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I gave the kittens away today. I tried to make sure they got good homes. I questioned the people, etc. One guy I wouldn't give one to because I got a bad feeling from him on the phone. He had no questions about the kittens at all. He had seen my add in the paper and just said he'd be over to take the last one. I asked him didn't he want to know anything about him, like how old, sex, ect.? He said no. I don't know, it was just weird. All the other people asked questions.
Anyway, though, I'm missing them tonight! :( I didn't realize how attatched I had gotten to them. I had one in particular that was a favorite and now wonder if I should have tried to keep him. I just have such a household of animals right now! I really do need to downsize a little! Lol!
I got such a kick out of watching them scamper after each other playing and sleeping together. How do people do it? How are they able to give away the litters? Poor Sweet Pea is already acting depressed. She's been looking for them. How long does that last?
Man, how do you do it? Don't you have to take in and give away animals? I guess I wouldn't be a good foster parent! I wouldn't want to give back the child! This is harder than I thought it would be! I mean, I knew I couldn't keep them forever.I just wish this wasn't so hard.
Anyway, though, I'm missing them tonight! :( I didn't realize how attatched I had gotten to them. I had one in particular that was a favorite and now wonder if I should have tried to keep him. I just have such a household of animals right now! I really do need to downsize a little! Lol!
I got such a kick out of watching them scamper after each other playing and sleeping together. How do people do it? How are they able to give away the litters? Poor Sweet Pea is already acting depressed. She's been looking for them. How long does that last?
Man, how do you do it? Don't you have to take in and give away animals? I guess I wouldn't be a good foster parent! I wouldn't want to give back the child! This is harder than I thought it would be! I mean, I knew I couldn't keep them forever.I just wish this wasn't so hard.
It was actually the receptionist, lol! She was the one acting all huffy.
I know, I have too soft of a heart. I like to help people and I love animals. My husband warned me that this could strain our friendship. I don't think they mean to be that way. They've just never been real good with their money. We've been friends for 7 years, so I don't want this to stand in the way. She's a really nice person, just doesn't think about stuff like this I guess. But you're right, I should have been more assertive. That's just not my nature! :D Oh well. Everything will work out. It always does. Thanks for letting me vent!
Good luck with your monster kitty!
I know, I have too soft of a heart. I like to help people and I love animals. My husband warned me that this could strain our friendship. I don't think they mean to be that way. They've just never been real good with their money. We've been friends for 7 years, so I don't want this to stand in the way. She's a really nice person, just doesn't think about stuff like this I guess. But you're right, I should have been more assertive. That's just not my nature! :D Oh well. Everything will work out. It always does. Thanks for letting me vent!
Good luck with your monster kitty!
Tell your vet if she cares so much about animals she could see the cat and arrange a payment schedule. Otherwise, it's put up or shut up with her guilting you. :\
From a legal point of view you are going about this all wrong and you're going to leave yourself stuck. I was in your position once, and I made up a neat little contract involving eventual payment of vet bills, food, etc... but I'm a bit of a hard case. (Alright, I did let them slide on some...but still, I like to make it stated clear who owes what. It's a good way to keep from losing good friends).
I've never heard of that problem (milk) but we do come across stuff we haven't heard of (not vets, after all!). Is the kitten drinking from Sweet Pea again? If so, it's probably not an issue. I'd say try again in a day or two to introduce your kitten to sweet pea. With her kitten back, she'll be calmer probably. I usually take the (cat) two and sit between them and *hold* them both...while they stare red hot death at each other! :) But after doing that a few times, the eventual dominance spat is usually not that big a deal.
We're actually going through this with a big strapping orange male who we just got, who's being quite the terror over here. We were surprised he challenged the head cats of the household, but there ya go. We've had to break it up a few times, but they seem to be settling in nicely now.
From a legal point of view you are going about this all wrong and you're going to leave yourself stuck. I was in your position once, and I made up a neat little contract involving eventual payment of vet bills, food, etc... but I'm a bit of a hard case. (Alright, I did let them slide on some...but still, I like to make it stated clear who owes what. It's a good way to keep from losing good friends).
I've never heard of that problem (milk) but we do come across stuff we haven't heard of (not vets, after all!). Is the kitten drinking from Sweet Pea again? If so, it's probably not an issue. I'd say try again in a day or two to introduce your kitten to sweet pea. With her kitten back, she'll be calmer probably. I usually take the (cat) two and sit between them and *hold* them both...while they stare red hot death at each other! :) But after doing that a few times, the eventual dominance spat is usually not that big a deal.
We're actually going through this with a big strapping orange male who we just got, who's being quite the terror over here. We were surprised he challenged the head cats of the household, but there ya go. We've had to break it up a few times, but they seem to be settling in nicely now.
They are in a place that's kind of like a shelter. It's a place run by a Christian ministry that helps people get back on their feet, I guess. They are allowed to be there up to two years. I don't think they'd be there that long, but it could be several months. Her husband is working. They have to pay a monthly fee to stay there. It's almost like a hotel kind of place. It's hard to describe.
I did already speak to my friend and asked her if she had another friend who could take Sweet Pea and watch her for her. She said she'd check into it but her best friend and sister in law how live close by are allergic and can't take her. Also, my friend's husband was in the hospital this week and she's pretty distracted with that so I didn't want to bug her about it too much right now.
It's not that I don't like Sweet Pea. I do. She's very affectionate. It's just that I've had to keep her in my bedroom since she attacked my daughter's kitten because I'm afraid she might do it again. It's weird, she didn't attack my 10 year old cat, just the 5 month old kitten. My older cat though is very timid and tends to hide.
I guess I've just been a bit stressed with all the animals. I loved the litter of kittens but I was constantly cleaning, etc., and am buying a whole lot more kitty litter. I also have their labrador retriever too. I really like her too. But now I have my own dog, cat, my daughter's new kitten, plus Sweet Pea and Daisy and until the other day had the three kittens from the litter.
I'm doing the best I can. The owners gave me a total of $60 since I took in their animals two months ago. We're not rich people either. I think they do want their animals back when they will be able to get them, but that won't be until they are able to save up enough to move and find a house to live in. They have four little kids too, so it won't be easy. Like I said before, I have a feeling it could be several months, at least until this Summer.
When I called the vet to ask about Sweet Pea being so engorged, they told me to bring her in because it could turn into mastitis (sp?) and then proceeded to make me feel bad when I told them I couldn't bring her in until payday which isn't until Friday. I felt like crying when I got off the phone. She made me feel like I was a horrible person for not bringing her in, like I cared more about money than the poor cat. It makes me wonder if she's ever had to live paycheck to paycheck?
Sorry, I guess I'm just venting. My husband and I have just been a little stressed with all the bills, etc. I haven't worked since I had to have surgery almost three months ago and we're feeling it! I was only working part time but still it helped. But anyway, I'm blabbering now! :) So I'll go. Take care, and thanks for writing me back! We'll survive! We always do!
I did already speak to my friend and asked her if she had another friend who could take Sweet Pea and watch her for her. She said she'd check into it but her best friend and sister in law how live close by are allergic and can't take her. Also, my friend's husband was in the hospital this week and she's pretty distracted with that so I didn't want to bug her about it too much right now.
It's not that I don't like Sweet Pea. I do. She's very affectionate. It's just that I've had to keep her in my bedroom since she attacked my daughter's kitten because I'm afraid she might do it again. It's weird, she didn't attack my 10 year old cat, just the 5 month old kitten. My older cat though is very timid and tends to hide.
I guess I've just been a bit stressed with all the animals. I loved the litter of kittens but I was constantly cleaning, etc., and am buying a whole lot more kitty litter. I also have their labrador retriever too. I really like her too. But now I have my own dog, cat, my daughter's new kitten, plus Sweet Pea and Daisy and until the other day had the three kittens from the litter.
I'm doing the best I can. The owners gave me a total of $60 since I took in their animals two months ago. We're not rich people either. I think they do want their animals back when they will be able to get them, but that won't be until they are able to save up enough to move and find a house to live in. They have four little kids too, so it won't be easy. Like I said before, I have a feeling it could be several months, at least until this Summer.
When I called the vet to ask about Sweet Pea being so engorged, they told me to bring her in because it could turn into mastitis (sp?) and then proceeded to make me feel bad when I told them I couldn't bring her in until payday which isn't until Friday. I felt like crying when I got off the phone. She made me feel like I was a horrible person for not bringing her in, like I cared more about money than the poor cat. It makes me wonder if she's ever had to live paycheck to paycheck?
Sorry, I guess I'm just venting. My husband and I have just been a little stressed with all the bills, etc. I haven't worked since I had to have surgery almost three months ago and we're feeling it! I was only working part time but still it helped. But anyway, I'm blabbering now! :) So I'll go. Take care, and thanks for writing me back! We'll survive! We always do!
What are the owners up to at this point? You may want to assess their status and the reality of them taking her back any time soon. I get the impression you don't want to keep Sweet Pea. You should probably start looking for a resolution to her situation; neither her nor you will be happy until what's happening to her is settled.
If they're in long term rehab...well, I wouldn't hold up hopes for them coming back. You've both been put in a bad situation by this.
If they're in long term rehab...well, I wouldn't hold up hopes for them coming back. You've both been put in a bad situation by this.
Well I would if she was my cat but I just don't think I can afford it. :(
I tihnk her real owners need to take some responsibility. I've already spent a fortune on food and kitty litter. And I will need to save up for the other kitten.
BTW, one of the kittens is back. The people said he didnt' get along with their older cat. He just latched right back onto Sweet Pea! I'm not sure if that's good or not. I started the process of trying to find another home for him, but my daughter keeps begging me to keep him. I feel so torn. He actually was my favorite out of the litter. I'm not sure what to do now!
I tihnk her real owners need to take some responsibility. I've already spent a fortune on food and kitty litter. And I will need to save up for the other kitten.
BTW, one of the kittens is back. The people said he didnt' get along with their older cat. He just latched right back onto Sweet Pea! I'm not sure if that's good or not. I started the process of trying to find another home for him, but my daughter keeps begging me to keep him. I feel so torn. He actually was my favorite out of the litter. I'm not sure what to do now!
You're right, it's possibly to old to nurxe. But it's not unheard of. I've seen cats who nurse up towards their first year. There doesn't seem to be any harm in it. They usually turn out to be very friendly, cuddleable cats.
But her milk should dry up in a couple of weeks tops. At six months, their would be Alpha issues. I wouldn't worry to much though, most likely the kitten will back down eventually if you let her out again. We get some real yowling over here sometimes and while I'm tempted to douse them, we usually let them work it out. If it doesn't resolve we do end up transfering one of the offenders out, but usually it resolves. House cats rarely take it to a violent/injurious level. Without the issues of breeding and food supply, they don't have much investment in taking it "all the way". Actually, if you get sweet pea fixed, it will probably calm her down some.
But her milk should dry up in a couple of weeks tops. At six months, their would be Alpha issues. I wouldn't worry to much though, most likely the kitten will back down eventually if you let her out again. We get some real yowling over here sometimes and while I'm tempted to douse them, we usually let them work it out. If it doesn't resolve we do end up transfering one of the offenders out, but usually it resolves. House cats rarely take it to a violent/injurious level. Without the issues of breeding and food supply, they don't have much investment in taking it "all the way". Actually, if you get sweet pea fixed, it will probably calm her down some.
Shouldn't Sweet Pea's milk just automatically dry up? She looks all engorged and nipples are full and hard. I feel sorry for her. Being that I breastfed my last child, I know how that must feel! Not good at all. :( I guess it will just naturally go down?
Trying to give her lot's of loving right now! :)
Trying to give her lot's of loving right now! :)
I don't think she'd try to nurse this kitten. This kitten is almost 5 months old and big! But I'll try the towel trick, thanks! I hate having to keep everyone seperated, but I guess I'll have to for awhile longer. I called my friend. She's going to see if she can find a another friend to take her. It might take awhile. Her relatives and one of her best friends are allergic apparently.
Yeah, it sounded like a pretty serious cat fight! They were up doing the dance thing,battling it out, claws out, making a lot of racket. She just took off after her, ran up to her and attacked her! So now, she gets to stay in my bedroom again.
She's a real sweet cat. I guess she just doesn't like other cats! It's weird. She didn't try it with my older cat. But then Misha's so timid, she just hides under things half the time. I wish they'd all just get along! Too bad we can't sit them down and tell them to behave!
Yeah, it sounded like a pretty serious cat fight! They were up doing the dance thing,battling it out, claws out, making a lot of racket. She just took off after her, ran up to her and attacked her! So now, she gets to stay in my bedroom again.
She's a real sweet cat. I guess she just doesn't like other cats! It's weird. She didn't try it with my older cat. But then Misha's so timid, she just hides under things half the time. I wish they'd all just get along! Too bad we can't sit them down and tell them to behave!
Ugh, that could be a reaction to losing her kittens. Within a day or two she'd probably be nursing this one, but at the moment she just knows her kittens are gone and this one smells "wrong". You could try this, I don't know if it will work: If you've got a towel or something that Sweet Pea can sleep on, you could then give it to the kitten to sleep on after a day or so. It should do some smell transference. It MIGHT help...otherwise, it's not unusual for an older cat to put a "kitten in it's place", but if it's getting very violent like you described...best to break it up.
Yikes! That's why I questioned them a lot, whether they had kids, other pets, ect. One lady brought her three little girls and I could tell he'd get spoiled right off! They said they already had a bed and toys, etc. I think you can just kinda get a feel for people, you know? I've learned to trust my instincts. I'm usually pretty good at reading people. Whether this man meant any harm or not, I don't know. Another thing that bothered me was he was wanting to come over right away. I was alone in the house. There was no way I was going to let a strange man in my house! The others were ladies with their kids or husbands.
I think I'm going to call them all later tonight and see how they are all doing. I called Sweet Pea's mom and asked her if she had another friend who could take her for awhile. She is attacking my daughter's kitten. Yesterday we had quite a cat fight and the kitten was a little traumatized for awhile. She wouldn't let my daughter hold her and she was shaking and acting jittery, nervous. It took her a long time to calm down. I mean Sweet Pea just took after her! It really freaked her out! I don't know if it was because she was still feeling protective over her kittens or because we hadn't let her out of the bedroom much. I can't keep three cats locked up in three different rooms though. Their lab is working out well with the rest of the animals. She likes to play with my daughter's kitten and they sleep together! It's kinda cute. I mean Daisy is so huge and the kitten so small! But Daisy is so gentle with her. She treats her like she's her puppy! But then again, this kitten already acts like she thinks she's a dog! What a household we have! Lol!
I think I'm going to call them all later tonight and see how they are all doing. I called Sweet Pea's mom and asked her if she had another friend who could take her for awhile. She is attacking my daughter's kitten. Yesterday we had quite a cat fight and the kitten was a little traumatized for awhile. She wouldn't let my daughter hold her and she was shaking and acting jittery, nervous. It took her a long time to calm down. I mean Sweet Pea just took after her! It really freaked her out! I don't know if it was because she was still feeling protective over her kittens or because we hadn't let her out of the bedroom much. I can't keep three cats locked up in three different rooms though. Their lab is working out well with the rest of the animals. She likes to play with my daughter's kitten and they sleep together! It's kinda cute. I mean Daisy is so huge and the kitten so small! But Daisy is so gentle with her. She treats her like she's her puppy! But then again, this kitten already acts like she thinks she's a dog! What a household we have! Lol!
It's a little hard at times, but we trust the rescue group when it comes to picking homes. You just try not to think of all the bad things that can happen. We do have a follow up set up where the people sign a contract in which they agree to call back if for any reason the can't keep the cat, even if it's years later. They'll even go to the person's house to pick up the cat within a days notice.
I'd say give her a week or two tops, and she'll have already adjusted. Animals have great survival instinct that way. Kittens are alot of fun, but with what we do, the high death rate just kills you after a while. Which is why we don't really take kittens anymore. Everytime my wife goes on about how cute they are, I remind her they make up for cuteness by being very energetic and annoying!!! :)
They adopt out so quickly (kittens) it's never really an issue, though.
It's harsh, but it looks like the organization is shutting down. They've been having funding problems (more than usual). We'll have to see what happens.
You were right on the "Strange man", by the way. One thing you have to watch out for is people out there who will call up as if adopting and then turn around and sell the animals for laboratory testing. There's stranger things that come up, like people taking cats/kittens to "feed" other animals (pythons???) but that's a little unusual, I think...I hope!!!
I'd say give her a week or two tops, and she'll have already adjusted. Animals have great survival instinct that way. Kittens are alot of fun, but with what we do, the high death rate just kills you after a while. Which is why we don't really take kittens anymore. Everytime my wife goes on about how cute they are, I remind her they make up for cuteness by being very energetic and annoying!!! :)
They adopt out so quickly (kittens) it's never really an issue, though.
It's harsh, but it looks like the organization is shutting down. They've been having funding problems (more than usual). We'll have to see what happens.
You were right on the "Strange man", by the way. One thing you have to watch out for is people out there who will call up as if adopting and then turn around and sell the animals for laboratory testing. There's stranger things that come up, like people taking cats/kittens to "feed" other animals (pythons???) but that's a little unusual, I think...I hope!!!
When I got my kitten the lady who gave him to me told me it would be difficult for her to give him up since he was unique to her eyes. She looked sad and depressed but she knew he'd be in a good home with good people.
Same thing happened to me when I had to give my kitty back to her so that she could give him a bath and put some shampoo to protect him from ticks and fleas. I didn't see him for two days. I was calling the lady soooo much but she didn't pick up the first day. I left her messages but she didn't reply. I was devastated and sad that I didn't know anything about my 3 month old kitty. When she finally called I felt at ease and happy and so I went to pick him up that day. He hadn't eaten because he was missing me. But when I had to give him to her I felt like a big mountain coming down on me I almost fell on the floor crying. It was really dramatic!! You don't know you love them dearly until its time to let them go for some reason.
I understand what you're going through. The difference is I got my baby back and he is happy and as always acting crazy. :)
Poor sweet pea. Just give her lots of love.....
Same thing happened to me when I had to give my kitty back to her so that she could give him a bath and put some shampoo to protect him from ticks and fleas. I didn't see him for two days. I was calling the lady soooo much but she didn't pick up the first day. I left her messages but she didn't reply. I was devastated and sad that I didn't know anything about my 3 month old kitty. When she finally called I felt at ease and happy and so I went to pick him up that day. He hadn't eaten because he was missing me. But when I had to give him to her I felt like a big mountain coming down on me I almost fell on the floor crying. It was really dramatic!! You don't know you love them dearly until its time to let them go for some reason.
I understand what you're going through. The difference is I got my baby back and he is happy and as always acting crazy. :)
Poor sweet pea. Just give her lots of love.....
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