Hi and welcome to the Chiari forum,
We are all different and how we recover reflects that as well....first u have to rest, rest and then rest some more....do not feel compelled to jump back into ur "normal" life and routines..as it can cause a set back.
Make as many meals ahead of time and freeze them...have help for around the house and ur child...know it will take time a few months b4 u can begin to do some things again without it affecting ur recovery....
Even reading post op can affect how u recover....so,. u do have to listen to ur body...and keep in mind it also depends on what other related and non related conditions u may also have.
We do have tips for the hospital stay in the Health Pages.--
http://www.medhelp.org/health_pages/list?cid=186
Congratulations on ur surgery date, and to have a prayer thread posted please post on the surgery date thread...