mood changes?

[Sexybare]

Apparently my bf is tired of my mood changing on a whim, he says. I try to be happy no matter how i feel. But i have a ha today and i cant always pretend im fine. And im tired of explaining it. Will he ever undetstand? Probly not. Hes asking me what we can have for dinner regardless of how i feel. Figure it out,right?!

[cash242]

I am 10 mo post off decompression and my mood has been great but since my last surgery wow I am so cranky and what makes me sad is my ha and pain are better but I am so worn down I know I just had surgery but I don't know if I will ever have energy again. My husband is so great and takes over but I hate feeling incompetent I have always been very independent.....think I may be depressed never saw that one coming either I was always the picture of optimism. I am afraid to have hope sorry am having a pity party today thank you all for being there.

[irislita]

Oh i really understand u.i have the same here...i think they do not understand what we have and they cant see it.actually yesterday i went out to eat with friends and everybody said...u look great,u r much better arent u...mmmmhhh no i am not at all.my relationship is suffering a lot and i dont know if i can stay like this much longer.i am tired of explaining all the time that i feel bad....i cant join to dance...etc...And in my case i can tell u,he does not get used to it

[Rylanesmom]

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[Rylanesmom]

I'm sorry Dana:( it is exhausting trying to pretend you are ok Shen you are not.  I understand how you feel ... I know that doesn't help

[selmaS]

  I wish there was an easy answer for how to handle all those around us, but we can't...just trying to get my family to understand that even tho there was a few weeks till Christmas, did not mean we have all the time in the world to get to something, I have to work on things slowly over that time frame in order to be able to feel half way decent  for the actual holiday!!

I have to admit tho, my DH makes most all meals...it started with just the big holiday dinners bcuz of how I worked and I was always tired, we had no idea my dx back then....but it is a huge help now...except that many times he is making a meal at 8pm...too late when u have reflux....

So we can have some good aspects, and some not so good aspects...they get it , but not all the way...and I guess them getting just some of it is better then not at all...u know?

  How far post op are u now?....moods changing is very typical as u heal...so just say it is part of the healing process...lol...and it can take up to 2 yrs to heal....that way he may learn to ignore some of it...and mayb begin to help u a little more,

    "selma"