uncontrollable 4 year old (will be 5 in 2 1/2 months) daughter
i have two children both girls ages 3 and almost 5, with another child on the way. for the last year my oldest daughter has been having massive tantrums that cant be stopped.she refuses to listen to her father or myself. she also screams at us and her sister, hits, kicks, throws things and calls us names. we have tried taking things away (toys, tv, ect), grounding her to her room with no toys in it, time outs, and more but nothing works. as soon as she is told she has gotten something taken away or whatever we decide to do, she will sit and scream a blood curdling scream for over a half hour at times. when we tell her not to do something she will look us right in the eye and keep doing it. she wont do anything she is told to do ever. she has started to get violent towards her sister ( hitting. bitting, kicking, and pulling hair). she knows that all this is wrong and when we talk to her about stuff i can tell she understands but she seems to just not care at all! she is VERY smart for her age (we have been told she is on the same level as a 7 year old). we try challenging her with harder games, toys, books and activities, to keep her from getting bored but that doesnt seem to even help. she is an angel in school and helps out in class and listenes very well but at home and in public or at family members houses she is like she always is. i dont know what to do any more. its to the point where nobody can handle her or deal with her anymore. is this normal stuff for her age or should i have her seen?
No, this behavior is not at all within the normal spectrum and certainly does inviet professional intervention. A sensible place to start is an evaluation with a child psychiatrist, followed by an evaluation with a behavior specialist.
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