10 Year old daughter gone berzerk

[Sadmommy626]

On this forum I read about the little boy who gets crazy and says he wants to kill himself well my daughter is in that predicament.
We give her all the love in the world, respect and is surrounded by positive things we dont even fight in front of the kids and try to always spend family time as much as we can.
My daughter has been horribly bad for a whole week now and has really been disrespectful and has caused me to get numb from my body due to the  anger I am going through.
I cant even send her to her room because she starts screaming like shes being murdered and no one is even hitting, threatening or being mean to her at all. I dont know what to do, she has me at my whits end. HELP


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[CP70]

Sounds like your being tested...

So when she screams like shes being murdered whats her consequence?

Do not let her get away with this behavior, if she continues it will get worse..

Make her go to her room. Be very calm but firm (you do not want to give a explosive reaction to her behavior) Give choices " I will not tolerate being disrespected, you need to go to room." If she refuses give a warning. Calmly but firmly "you have a choice, you can either go to your room on your own for 10 minutes or if I have to walk you there, you will be in there for 20 minutes." give her a minute to think about what you said. If she refuses, repeat yourself again. Then give a minute. If she still refuses walk her to her room. set a timer for 20 minutes. In the future the more consistent you are with this the first time you give her a choice she will move. She will scream and yell but its in her room not in yours..  She will eventually calm down. the more times you do it the less the behavior will be appealing to her because she is not getting anything out of it nor is she getting a rise out of you.

You are the parent, you have rules. enforce them. It really sounds like she is testing you based on what you said.

Good luck!

[margypops]

Find out from her how she is feeling,n stressful situation she cant deal with and is acting out, before any times out ask her if something has happened she is anxious about,there is probably a reason for it. if this behavior has suddenly started has there been a

[margypops]

Sorry PC playing me up!!! Yes there could be some reason she is feeling like this find out what it is,

[sharjojo]

For the past two years my relationship with my daughter has been terrible. If I say yes she says no. She is rude and disrespectful to me in front of other people. She is fine with other people besides her brother. I have sadly gotten where I dislike her. Since birth she has been unaffectionate. She can go away for two weeks at a time and not miss being home with her family. Dad has had a job for the past three years where he is absent from home all week. Both of my kids love their father dearly. My son is the exact opposite of his sister. My daughter was dx with ulcerative colitis in first grade and requires Remicade tx every eight weeks. My behavior towards my daughter is just as bad as hers towards me. How can we get on track and have a loving relationship?