10yr old grandson

[Qwheezie]

My 10 yr old grandson stays part time at my house, mom's and dads. Because of divorce. We all love an support him, but their is many issues I'm concerned with. He's been gaining weight for several yrs now, but lately he looks like his skin is ready to explode. Many red stretch marks are appearing everywhere. He's getting headaches,gets dizzy, always aches and pains, no energy at all. he argues about EVERYTHING. He's been to Dr. They try different meds. Even meds for add, which made him depressed. I've read so many different suggestions, but get confused by all of it. His parents are loving, caring parents, but are extremely busy with work an college. I love this boy with all my heart but it's becoming very challenging to say the least. He needs me in his life, but it's really hard to get 3 households on the same page. We've tried, but it always goes back to the same way. One last thing, I personally don't care for his Dr. but he still sees him. The parents are ok with him. I just need some type of advise that makes sense and helpful.

[Sandman2]

        Well, I think that about all you can do is to continue to love and support him.   And, I get the feeling that your feelings about his doctor may be justified.  Do you know if they have done a thyroid test and checked for type 2 diabetes?   Perhaps if this doctor has not been able to make a difference, they need to see a specialist.   This certainly is not a normal condition for a 10 year old.
      Also ADD meds should not make him depressed (unless overdosed).  Hopefully, he was not on resperdal for anxiety as that will cause weight gain among other things.
      How is he doing at school?  How is his attendance?

[Qwheezie]

The problem is that the parents don't seem to notice these issues. I try to not to be constantly bringing up issues about him, because I feel I notice everything. And in many other ways, he seems perfectly normal outside of the weight gain. He was on 2 different meds for ADD, but didn't seem to respond well to them. So mom decided to just pass on it. Academically he does quite well, he's probably missed about 10 days of school already. Mom an dad seem to let him stay home, even if it's a minor issue. He's always trying to find reasons to stay home. I ask him if they are any problems at school he would like to share with me, but he always says everything is fine. when it comes to homework he has a very poor attitude, NEVER will he do anything more than what is expected. And that's in all aspects of life. He literally argues about everything. I feel I've lost my ability to stand firm. He exhausts me with just about every conversation. I feel I don't know the right way to deal with it anymore. He's becoming increasingly more inactive, no energy. I'm trying to keep more healthier food choices for him, but again his time is split between 3 homes so that's hard to control. I guess for me looking at him an seeing he just doesn't have much enthusiasm for anything but video games that concerns me. Grandpa & I are always trying to get him involved in things, but he just about refuses all ideas. He has more excuses then anyone I know. We have very positive attitudes here, but he literally questions and argues an has a poor attitude. I realize he's almost 11 yrs old an facing his preteens, an some behavior is very normal. But something is just not right. I will say he is much more open with me then anyone else in family. He will talk to me about just anything. I've made that really clear to him, that I will not judge any question he wants to know about and I will answer it the best I can. I guess I don't know how to open parents eyes to the reality of it. I've approach them on several occasions. His mom is working on her masters degree in physiology. So she always seems to have a answer to everything. She's a very laid back parent type. When I look really hard at him, I see a young boy who seems lost. An who's health seems to be declining daily. It does help that I can write down concerns on here an release some tension. All I want is a adjusted healthy boy. But feel like I'm never doing enough, although he seems to be the center of my life.