11 month old still sleeping in bed with us

[kraziekracka]

i know this is really bad but my 11 month old still sleeps in the bed with us...i was just wondering if anyone had any tricks to try to get him to sleep in his own bed...as soon as i put him down he wakes up...& i think its time he goes in his own bed, he just wont stay...

[Aliciousness]

My son is 15 months old and I have a hard time letting him go sleep on his own. I let him sleep on his own when he was born and then he had UTI and from then on he slept with us. But 2 months ago I tried putting him in his cot and he cried and then he vomitted so I haven't tried since but I know that I have to do it soon. I just don't have the heart to let him sleep alone yet.

[kcgreen]

I can understand your situation complelety. My son slept with us until his 1st b-day and I never thought I would get him to sleep in his crib. If you really want your child out of your bed here is what worked for me. (If you don't want them out, I know many familes who sleep with their childern, its a personal choice)  I know how hard it is to hear and actually do, but you have to let him cry it out. Establish a bedtime routine (read a couple books, sing songs) and put your child in the crib with a stuffed animal or blanket they like. Go in the room after half an hour and pat their back but don't pick them up. Continue to so this and strech out the time you go in. Also have some moral support at home with you for it is not easy.  It should only last up to 3 days. My fingers are crossed for you :)

[kraziekracka]

sometimes hell sleep in his crib for a little while & other times he wakes up as soon as i put him down

[anxiousmomtobe?]

First of all, if it is working and you and your dh are fine with it, I wouldn't worry about it.  I know lots of familes where co-sleeping is the norm.

If it is bothering you, try puttin him in his bed when he is drowsy but not yet asleep.  It is okay to let him fuss for a few moments.  This will be a huge adjustment for him.  He's used to snuggling up to warm bodies.  Is he sleeping in his crib during the day?  

[Cleveland Mom]

Consult a baby book re: getting infants to sleep thru the night and follow the advice.  I slept with both of my kids until they were about 6 months old because I nursed them and frankly this was the best way for me to get the sleep that I needed to funtion.  Basically, I placed them in their cribs and they cried for 5 minutes, I would go into their rooms, give them a pat and let them know I was there and then leave, leave and they would howl, I would return in 10 minutes and repeat the process, return in 15 min.  For the first couple of days the first few hours they cried, then they fell asleep for a couple of hours, woke up and I repeated the process returning every 5, 10, 15 minutes to reassure them.  By about the third or fourth night they were basically sleeping thru the night.  They had learned how to self-sooth and made an important milestone, sleeping independently thru the night.  They are now 4 and 2 years old and are super sleepers.  The hardest part is the first 3 days or so.  
Best wishes...

[taysmommy]

my DD is 15 months and still sleeping with us, ive never really tried to put her in her own bed, just wanted to wish you luck, i know its going to be hard on both of you , im 17 week prego and swear this next one is going in the bassinet from day one, if not, its time to invest in a bigger bed lol

[kraziekracka]

thank you very much...im not looking forward to it but i have to do it lol or hell be sleeping with us forever

[April2]

It'll be hard for awhile! I understand. I used to allow my daughter to sleep with me because her dad was gone a lot for work and I liked having her close to me. I can tell you what I did. I stayed with her until she went to sleep. I made sure she had her favorite stuffed animals, etc. I would read her a book and then lay next to her or sit next to her until she fell asleep.
Also, my two year old has a music box attached to his bed that has a soft light and music that he likes to turn on when he lays down. Maybe you could invest in something like that. It can help distract him that he is in a new bed. And he could watch the lights and listen to the music until he got sleepy. It really seems to work for my little one!
Those are just a few ideas. It will take a few weeks probably, for him to learn a new schedule and learn that it's not just a temporary thing. Count on several sleepless nights while you get him into this new habit! Hope any of this works!