I'm having some issues with my 11 year old son. We have big visitation issues, he used to have week to week but was all over the place in his grades. Our psychologist at the time suggested me having more time during the school year. We had a GAL so it was changed. Since then, he has been on honor roll every semester. Now, he has been behaving very badly at visitation times. I've tried to minimize my involvement (having pick ups at school or soccer practice) but during the holidays, we can't and my son has become enraged in going to his Dads. He kicks walls in, breaks his school back pack, kicks our washer in, car doors, anything. Yet when I finally get him in the car to go to visitation, and we see Dad, Dad asks him what is wrong and he says nothing and goes. It seems as if all his frustration is taken out on me and MY things and yet he tells me he does this because he does not want to go. 50 year old Dad is now living with a 25 year old with 2 small children and my son has now had to share a room. I thought he would love that as he is an only child at home and thought with having someone else to play with, this would be great for him. He says he hates it. I'm not sure what to do anymore and can't afford school, clothes AND weekly therapy of $125 an hour and do not get child support. I've asked him if he would rather stay there more or go back to week to week, as that would be fine with me, however, he starts to cry and says no. He doesn't really have any friends at all either. Custody evaluators thought he had autism but we had him tested 14 times and no one found anything except issues with change and transitions and that he is a "quirky kid".
I've tried to talk to his Dad about things but he won't call or email me back. He never responds to me or other teachers or school counselors, we simply do not get called back. Even certified letters from the principal have been sent, all ignored. Any ideas would be appreciated!
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