Our 12 year old son consistently has problems getting to sleep and staying asleep, fearing that someone will come in and kill him. Frequently (like, every other night), he has to have one of us sleep with him. We live in a safe neighborhood, no history of break-ins nearby, don't watch scary movies, have repeatedly pointed out that he is safe. Gets very "clingy" as bedtime approaches. He is prone to stomach problems anyway (Lazy Bowel Syndrome), and inevitably his stomach starts to hurt at night as the anxiety level increases.
Probably unrelated, but another issue... he simply refuses to accept that any failure or lack-of-progress is HIS fault... if he can't do some trick on his skateboard, it's because his skateboard is inferior... if he didn't get to play enough in the soccer game, it's not because he doesn't hussle enough, it's because the coach is no good. Could be related to the fact that he has an over-achieving older sibling...
My wife and I are inclined to consider some form of counseling for both issues, but how does one introduce the idea of going to a mental health counselor to a 12 year old ? From a financial point of view, how much should I expect counseling to cost?
Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
-pete