12yr old son sourcing porn

[jellybean14fun]

Hi, my 12yr old who turns 13 in Feb is going through crazy hormones I think...we have a very good mother son relationship & he is always honest & open to me...of which he has recently admitted to viewing porn on the internet.  He has done this twice that I know of.  I know I will now be setting the internet parental control to fix this.  However he has just also explained to me that he constantly thinks about 'sex' if that is an appropriate word, yet of course he has never had sex...he said that he constantly feels 'horny' & cant stop from thinking about it all day.  I can see that it is getting him down.  We have talked about the 'masterbation (masturbation)' thing openly & I suggested it could be a way of releasing the thoughts & stress.

Please - any tips, suggestions & advice would be extremely grateful.  I am a solo mum & my child hardly see's his dad or any other older male figures for him to speak to.  He lives in a house full of females.  

[aid821]

I think it's great that he is so open with you and likewise. So many boys out there wouldn't want to express that to there parent/s. He's letting you know that sexually he's starting to mature. I think you've pretty much covered the basics with him, although emphasise to him that it's not a bad thing that he's feeling/thinking.

With boys who've just hit puberty/sudden burst of hormones, these feeling can become so intense because they come out of nowhere, so reinforcing the outlet of masturbation will be good for him. A little later on in the piece, the whole 'sex talk' might be worth giving too, i.e condoms, being ready not just because i'm 'horny', being the right age etc. boys really need this info. All the best :)

[RtSandra]

Please read my article HOG WILD. Very similiar.

[April2]

I agree with the above and also it might be a good idea for you to find some kind of sports or other types of physical exercise that can help release some of these pent up feelings in a good, healthy way. If he's tired out from a lot of physical exercise then he doesn't have much time or energy to obsess about sex! :)