2 Year old Making her self throw up when dad leaves her at daycare

[FrustratedDCP]

I have a 2 yo daycare girl that screams and crys and actually makes herself throw up when her dad leaves her here.  She is perfectly fine a few minutes later and she does NOT do this when her mom brings her.  I think she has seperation anxiety and her dad is making it worse by consoling her and picking her up, then telling her he is leaving, and picking her up again when she crys.  He stayed for over 15 minutes today.  What can I try to make things better for her?  I even told the parents to try a new daycare and they don't want to so I am guessing that she does some of this at home to.

[RockRose]

Interesting- there was a family in my neighborhood who participated in Wife Swap.  I don't know how many you watched but this was an episode with a Black Christian conservative family matched with a family with one daughter and lesbian parents.

It was an absolute nightmare for both families - both were threatened with being sued for the 1 million bucks production costs if they backed out  at any time,  and the network purposely matched hopelessly mismatched families.    I knew way before the episode aired that this was going to be a total train wreck - and it was.  So sad.  

Anyway, for what it's worth.

[tiredbuthappy]

this whole thing reminds me of wifeswap- that silly show on ABC.

these moms go into this proclaiming that they have the best idea of parenting. the drama can be intense, and in the end everyone leaves with at least a changed perspective. it's also funny how those moms think that they can simply apply the rules of their homes and expect it to magically work in the new family.

[RockRose]

I agree, the advice that the child is suffering from severe anxiety,  and the dad should probably make the good bye very quick was great advice.

[lovethebops]

Gosh, it I were the OP, I'd change my name to "FrustratedMHMember"-I am glad a professional gave her some good advice. Any good advice here would be hard to find in the cloud of hostility that permeates this thread!

[RockRose]

You took my post wrong,  Suzi.  You filtered it through your own perceptions.  

Baby room is a term,  within a day care or a church nursery setting,  where the babies are.  The cribs and rocking chairs and babies and workers who work with babies are there.

There is nothing prejorative about that term unless you're looking for something to fight about.

[suzi-q]

it isn't the term "baby room" like you would use at a church....it is the context in which you used it.  How daycare has "babyrooms" as if they are cattled in.  It was the context, not the word itself.  Just from the tone of your other posts, I took your terms with negative conotations.

Yes, I used snide remarks, only in response to yours and your "superior" attitude in your posts.  If you go back to my first posts, many times I tried to make peace with the subject, but some wouldn't let it.