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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
2 Years oldSleep desorder
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
2 Years oldSleep desorder
by SophiaB, May 01, 2002 12:00AM
My doughter only 2years old can't sleep strait trough the night. she has slept no more than 10 times strait since she was borned. now it has become a problem because my wife and I are loosing it. we can't take it any more. I am afraid one day I am going to hurt my girl, I loose all the control and love that I have for her than I very mad, I don't I agree with hurting your children.
This little girl can cry for 1 hour strait without stop and she can do that 3 times during the night. She only stops when we carry her and take her out of her room, but the minute we put her down she starts again. During the day she some times sleeps, but hardly ever for more that 1/2 hour. She is extremily active and it seems like nothing can get her tired. I am having a difficult time at work staing awake and it is affecting my mood and my relationship with my wife, we are arguing about this issue every day, she complains because I carry her but I only do it after one hour of constant crying I do it because I know that if she sleeps than we sleep.
I am open to any suggestions please help.
This little girl can cry for 1 hour strait without stop and she can do that 3 times during the night. She only stops when we carry her and take her out of her room, but the minute we put her down she starts again. During the day she some times sleeps, but hardly ever for more that 1/2 hour. She is extremily active and it seems like nothing can get her tired. I am having a difficult time at work staing awake and it is affecting my mood and my relationship with my wife, we are arguing about this issue every day, she complains because I carry her but I only do it after one hour of constant crying I do it because I know that if she sleeps than we sleep.
I am open to any suggestions please help.
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., May 02, 2002 12:00AM
, May 02, 2002 12:00AM
Almost always in situations like this it is the pattern of interaction between parent and child that is maintaining the problem. Every time you do what you are doing, you are guaranteeing that the problem is going to continue. You are your own worst enemy in this situation, and the solution will come if you can change your behavior. You are going to have to bite the bullet and let your daughter fuss and cry. There's no easy way to solve this. She's displaying a pattern that, unwittingly, you have encouraged. I hope you see what I mean by this. Consult with her health care providers or with a pediatric behavioral health clinician - they can guide you about how to proceed. But, in general, you're going to have to stop going in to your daughter, picking her up, and carrying her around.
Member Comments (2)
by poisonredivy, Jul 09, 2002 12:00AM
I also have a 2 year old daughter who does the same thing....with a twist. Ever since she was born, she and I slept in the same room, but not the same bed. I recently bought a home and now she has her own room. I have live here for 3months and she has only slept in her bed once. It is like she is terrified of it. She will/wants to sleep on the couch, or with me. I've tried to make her stay in her room/bed, but she screams and screams till I can't take it any more. I'm worried that I am disturbing my new neighbors as well. I really want her to sleep in her own room/bed, but I am afraid that I will get too frustrated and take it out on her. Any words of wisdom???
