2 year old behavior

My son is two years and three months old. I just enrolled him in a preschool and suddenly I have noticed a change in his behavior. He has become very stuborn. He would ask me to do things sometimes that are disrespectful. If he wants to stay with his dad, he will ask everyone else to leave that room. And if we dont do that he starts crying unnecessarily. So my question is how do I teach him to respect others feelings. How do I make him understand that others have life too and everyone has a right to do certain things at certain time. Sometimes he will ask for things that are not appropriate and we end up giving because he will not stop crying. Is it too late to teach him or is it the right age to guide him. please give your advice.

What are my options?

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Your son is very young, and it makes sense to set rerasonable limits and absolutely do not defer to him when he makes a fuss. It won't be helpful to do a lot of talking about the issue - he's only two and really won't be able to make sense of your messages. Focus on his behavior and whether or not it is conforming to your expectations.

[Andrea7878]

i have a 2 yr old too. she thinks she owns me half the time. if i dear hold my oldest she will cry and wont on my lap. i just let her cry i tell her i love her and that ill hold her in a min. she gets over it prety fast and when im done holding my son ill go find her and hug her so shell know i love her too. darn terible two's lol

[Danielle_Sandy]

hey i think u should just let your son or daughter cry and just talk to her and try and show him love as much as u can..and if that doesnt help try giving him toys and clothes to make him listen to u and see how it turns out..

[JeremiahTera]

My step son refuses to do just about anything me and my wife ask from him. He usually tells us NO right to our faces. Sometimes he spits at us or just falls to the ground and throws a fit. He cries when he dosent get his way and if he does it long enough, he knows his mother will usually give in..for example he'll cry during the night atlest 2 to 3 times a week, then after a few minutes mom goes in there to get him out of bed to come lay with us. Then when its time to go back to bed he does it all over again. This behavior is the norm in our house and happens daily. Can anyone help?

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