2 year old cries for no reason.

[deputyrm]

I have a 2 year old son who will be 3 in January.  My concern is that he cries sometimes for no reason for example.  last night he fell asleep between my wife and i, when we moved him he woke up and started to cry...then would kick..and cry loud..then just cry then cry loud...he has 2 older brothers 9 and 7 and they never acted this way..another example...yesterday i took away something from him, and again he threw himself on the floor and would cry the same way...then kick and twist...then just cry ,then just suddenly stop and play...then start again with his kicking and crying...is this normal for a 2 year old?  could it be because he is getting spoiled?  or..some people say that because my wife is 7 months pregnant he is getting jealous?  any suggestions please help!!

[luvmykids956]

My daughter is 2 and is the same way.  She is high needs, also known as a spirited child.  It's not a mental illness or pysical problem.  It just means they frustrate far easier than other kids.  Being patient and talking calmly should ease up the fits.  

[jrb08234]

OMIGOSH!!!  I am not the only one!!????  I am even having trouble with my feelings toward my son, I love him, LOVE him and would never hurt him, but i sometimes feel withdrawn and disconnected.  NO ONE, not any grandparents, the part time daycare (one woman, with one other child in the daycare facility), his daddy, no one has experienced this above described behavior but ME!!  

I was begining to think he has something wrong...

has anyone read "Parenting the Strong Willed Child"???

[babygirl6152]

he doesn't exactly sound spoiled- I can tell you work with him. Some parents truly have never had a child that has a temper tantrum. It is a crying spell a child has when they are not able to tell you they are frustrated and upset. Of course a two year old cannot verbalize all their feelings. All your other children just never had this sort of personality to test your authority...
Why do I say he is testing you? this sentence

"he is starting to talk pretty clear and he is says or usually yells at us "NO" when we tell him something."
Now- is this is normal that a child try this? Maybe it is normal that he try it. Is it normal for a parent to respond? YES- It's now time to train him to say "Ok dad" or "Yes mom" when he screams "NO" at you- it doesn't have to be unkind or stressful to you- he is probably very sweet in between these defiant times and I am sure he is smart and adorable... He just has a different temperament than your other 2 children. You can easily learn to deal with it, but he may be a bit different and strong -willed than your older children. I had one child- my youngest that started out with some tantrums ans he has a very very calm and loving disposition now. So sometimes it doesn't mean he is spoiled- it's just part of a 2 year old phase- but it is a wonderful time to teach and set up the parent-child relationship with you being a wonderful parent that loves a child enough to train him to be respectful to adults. Does that make sense? Do an internet search on temper tantrums and you will find loving, tender ways for a parent to approach this issue.

[deputyrm]

yeah that is what i thought to, that he might be feeling a little jealous...his older brothers dont pick on him at all they are really good with playing with him, but he also gets a lil mad when he does not get what he wants...if he doesnt get it then he yells and snaps...right now he is starting to talk pretty clear and he is says or usually yells at us "NO" when we tell him something..so i dont know just thought i'd get sum advice..then again..he is very respectful...example...when i give him anything like a glass of milk..he says thank you daddy....or he says bless you when someones sneezes...he even says welcome...and sorry.

[jdtm]

Babies do not cry "for no reason".  I don't know what the reason is - but, I assure you, there is "a reason".  I wish you luck in "finding the reason"....

[margypops]

He could be feeling some jealousy issues if he is hearing a lot about the New Baby coming, how does he get on with his older brothers are they kind to him, sometimes older siblings like to tease the younger ones and it can make them unhappy. Give him plenty of positive attention, and lots of Games and Fun, and make sure he is praised a lot for good behavior, you could also try not feeding into the crying when he does it ignore it.