3 y/o foot fetish

[yaniroxy]

My 3 year old son loves womens feet, he likes to rube them, smell them, or simply touch them.   He has to touch every women feet that comes to the house, friends, aunt, even guest.  But that's not all he has to cover himself with a blanket so nobody would see him.  Is this strange, weird, bad. Should I tell him to stop this or will he stop by himself.  Is this good for his future?

[RockRose]

Why are all your friends barefoot?

[yaniroxy]

They are not barefoot, he ask permision to takes their shoes off.  Most of my friends love it.

[here4theinfo]

Ha, I would say its cute, allthough I think you probaly are concerned if you are writing in. My daughter acted like a cat when she was younger, weird stage and shes allmost grown out of it, but she would hide too. Maybe he is going through a stage. Maybe hes hiding, because he knows its not a "normal" feeling, like she did when she thought she was a cat. However, I think you should probaly curb it, he will have to go to school and you dont want him crawling under desks taking off kids shoes to rub there feet. It might go over wrong. So, try to "cut" him down, maybe explain that he cant rub feet anymore, or he can rub you feet and his own, or tell him he can only touch them once to count them, but turn it into a counting game, and eventually "wean" him from that by counting other things. As far as the smelling thing, I dunno what to tell yeah, I would say have him smell a stinky foot and that would be the end of it..ha..Its all probaly harmless, Im sure as parents you played the smelly foot game, or massged them and he liked it so much, hes returning the favor. Maybe you have a podiatrist in your house? Or maybe he will be a shoe designer, accunpucturast, massage therapist.That would be a great thing for him huh? Anyways, just ask your friends to say "No thank you", and see if he finds something else to do. Even if he ends up with a "foot fetish", I dont think that is such a bad thing...Good Luck

[BakerMommy]

My son is 4 and he too has a foot fetish.  He loves to smell my feet and hold them.  He doesn't hide when he does it.  I don't know what exactly to do about it either.  You are not alone.

[Kjan]

My neighbor's little boy who is 6 does that to me when I visit. He does it to his mom too. I was shocked when it first happened but my neighbor thought is was cute and she made him stop because she didn't know how I would react. I told her I kinda liked it and now he massages my bare feet, and he smells them everytime I visit. Oh he does get an erection but I don't notice.

[SL345]

I encourage you to set limits on this behavior with school-age children if it persists. Also, talk to them about it. What is it about it that they like. Feet are often associated with power and control. Look for those issues in your relationship with your son. Rarely will you see girls engaged in similar behavior. Your guide should be if it makes you feel uncomfortable when he does it.

[Mike11]

Hi,

I myself had a foot fetish at that age. I used to play with my sister's feet and their friends. It has grown with me and 25 years later am still addicted to female feet.

I would recommend that you try to limit his access to female feet, otherwise he will come to expect open access to everyone's feet when he grows older, this problem does not go away, it lives with the person forever and becomes more of a 'problem' to live with.

You might want to also seek guidance from a professional.

[Findian]

My son has had a foot fetish since he was 2. He is autistic. It really freaked me out at first, especially since he would get an erection from just looking at a foot at the age of 2, I din't know little boys could do that! My therapist wrote a social story for him and has seemed to work pretty well, I especially enforce it when summer comes and people are in sandals. He would go to the length of hiding my friends and families shoes in the woods. Carol gray writes simple to the point social stories for kids as to where the behavior is appropriate. Look up social stories for autistic kids.

[Naomi130]

I'm sooooo glad i'm not alone.
My son who is now 4, loves feet. Had done since he was about 2.
He will do everything to touch your feet, He also smells them???
He gets very excited??? Which is embrassing,
Family and friends have started to make a joke out of it now.
I just really hope he grows out of it.
I've even thought of taking him to the doc's about it?? But what would i say???

[a_182cm_elf]

Good afternoon all,

Miss or Madame, please understand that it is not my intent to hurt you feelings. However, please understand that truth can be more difficult & stranger than fiction. Please understand that I am not an orator, and my respect for you and the welfare of your child greatly exceeds my concern for your feelings.

To mothers with a child who exhibits foot fetish behavior. Let me tell you a couple of things.

1)I've had a foot fetish since age three. It has become an integral part of my sexuality for well over 35 years.
2)Unlike many who've given empty opinions heretofore, I can quote credentialed references from Dr. Richard Von Krafft Ebing, through the Kinsey Institute and many others with Ph.d or a M.D.

Unless specifically asked, I will not volunteer to go digging through my volumes of notes, books and other text. However, should I be challenged, I would bury said challenger with a plethera of credentialed references, personal experiences, forums, etc. Personal experience indicates that my knowledge of this subject can make a therapist, who does not specialize in this field, uncomfortable.

The preceding paragraph did not originate in  bravado or bragging; it was originated research, personal experience and truth.

SL345
This person “SL345” wrote
“I encourage you to set limits on this behavior with school-age children if it persists. Also, talk to them about it. What is it about it that they like. Feet are often associated with power and control. Look for those issues in your relationship with your son. Rarely will you see girls engaged in similar behavior. Your guide should be if it makes you feel uncomfortable when he does it.

No offense, but SL345 your advice in this post is just wrong and bad, for reasons that will be made clear hearin.
Feet are associated with power and control?? Please provide a reference for this. I doubt that you can. You said that the mother's guide should be if it makes her uncomfortable? You said, “rarely will one see girls engaged in similar (fetish behavior) behavior.” Well of course not. Female sexuality is more touch based. The reason that in almost every survey, women want more foreplay. I doubt that, you've ever heard of DSM IV or the term paraphilia.  

Please listen to Mike11! In this post He knows what he is talking about.

Look at the seriousness of what this person's therapist does.

Whether you believe Buddha, lord Ganesha, in god making man a little higher than the animals but a little lower than the angels, or evolution, evolutionary theory holds that human males & higher primates share some common characteristics with the common ancestor of men & higher primates.

Men & higher primates are predisposed to being aroused by the environmental cues of the desirable women  being in the vicinity. Male sexuality is very visual & scent based. Men respond positively and with arousal to female scents. Thus, shoes trap female sweat, boy becomes aroused. Toes wriggle and often time brightly colored. The colors of a woman's soles very from white to pink, etc. The muscles of the foot are capable of sinuous movement.

There are records of chimpanzees exhibiting fetish behavior. Search the web and you'll find that most fetish items are those which trap female scent e.g. panties, stockings, pantyhose, socks, shoes & armpits. Search the social sciences section of your library (larger, metropolitan library) and you will learn that if a child is repeatedly exposed to his fetish interest, there is a possibility of the fetish becoming a paraphilia. This means that the person will not be able to function sexually unless his fetish his present.

Regardless of whether a boy's foot fetish becomes nothing more than an addition to his sexuality in his   adulthood,  or regardless of whether a boy's foot fetish becomes a paraphilia that keeps him from becoming aroused unless the fetish is present, the origin of the fetish is almost always the same:

when the boy was between 2-7 a sister, sister's friend or cousin, young girl; mother, female neighbor, aunt, adult woman always excited the boys fetish interest. Although the girl or woman did not know it at the time, the girl or woman was engaged in conditioning. A term that one which one will become    familiar should one decide to an in depth study of the origins of fetishes.

Most therapist lack the knowledge to say what I've said. They are to cowardly to say to mothers, “look what you've done to him.” However, therapist will elude to all that I've said and they'll even provide the proof.  
Finally, look at all the trouble that the  therapist of the son of Findian has through to ensure that the child does not have access to fetish material.  

Miss or Madame please understand that it is not my intent to hurt you feelings. However, please understand that truth can be a jagged little pill, thanks Alanis. Seriously though, I wish you and your son well

[a_182cm_elf]

Take your child to a competent therapist. never make your child feel guilty about his desires.If the therapist is reluctant to believe or act upon the fact that fetishes can begin in childhood due to the innocent actions of women, then you need to find a real therapist.
Fetish guilt can lead to a desire to be dominated in adolescence and adult hood.
Again, I've researched this my whole life.

Miss or Madame please understand that it is not my intent to hurt you feelings. However, please understand that truth can be a jagged little pill, thanks Alanis. Seriously though, I wish you and your son well

[vyo]

My stepdaughter is 8 years old and has exhibited a keen interest in smelling people's feet ever since she was little.  My husband and his family would laugh and think it was cute.  My husband said it apparently started because her mother's feet are really smelly.  The issue I've begun having with it is that I don't want her smelling my baby's feet.  For many weeks she would not interact with the baby except to only fixate and smell his feet.  I tried to divert her attention and tell her to try to focus on other things about the baby instead.  My husband thinks I'm overreacting.  He argued that she only does it to family.  But recently she admitted (without prompting) that she smelled her yoga teacher's feet too.  I told her to stay away from the baby's feet.  One day she said, "I know I'm not allowed to smell his feet but can I look at them?"  WEIRD!  My husband also recently began playing with the baby around her, aiming the baby's feet at her face in mock collision.  She was thoroughly enjoying it and said, "Daddy when you do that, put his feet in my face like that, I get chills, shivers at the bottom of my spine"  I was livid at my husband for going against me and when she was out of earshot told him to stop that, that she was developing inappropriate physical responses to the baby's feet and I would not tolerate it.  He thinks again that I'm overreacting.  The girl has social issues aside from this that he also does not see.  What should I do?  Am I overreacting or just being an overprotective first time mom?  I certainly don't want her sexualizing my baby, even if it is just his feet!

[vyo]

P.S.  I've known (and dated) grown men who had foot fetishes.  I'm very tolerant of what CONSENTING adults do with each other.  I just draw the line when it comes to a non-consenting BABY!

[a_182cm_elf]

I did not think that anyone read these forums, so I've not checked them everyday. Although I am not a psychiatrist, I think that you should be very concerned. As someone with a fetish for more than 30 years, I done quite a bit of research into this. I read what doctors have to say about this topic. DS-IV-TR, Kinsey, Janus, "John Money," to name the tip of the iceberg. You name it, and I've read it or will read it. Unless it garbage, like a lot of 19th century stuff.

Although the instance f fetish behavior in women is much lower than men, make no mistake, there are female fetishistic out there. Let me be unequivocally clear. Fetish behavior, time & time again, has its origins in childhood. It is very common, and the story is always the same: "When I was 4, 5, 6, or 7 years of age, a women in my life would..."
If you like, I could share 2 stories with you that would underscore this point. Both stories start with women who were then 22 years of age.
By all means, please draw the line with all of your children with regard to this. Just never make your children fee guilty about their sexual desires or it could cause other problems.

[vyo]

i simply tell her to stay away from the baby's feet.  lately i've been letting her touch his feet, but not linger on them, but certainly not to smell them.

previously i told her that some people don't like their feet being smelled and don't find it amusing.  that some people liken people smelling feet to people smelling butts, that it's a private part, and not always clean so stop putting her face there.  she even thought it was cute to crawl around on all fours following the dog and smelling the dog's butt (at her grandparents' home).  her relatives thought this was cute too.  but i told her that she's not a dog and shouldn't be acting like one.  she used to bark at dogs thinking she had a special communication with them.  luckily, she stopped the butt smelling and the dog barking.  hopefully she'll move away from the feet too.  there have been no recent incidences, but i notice when she's about to touch the baby's feet she looks at me first.  sometimes i give her a look to stop, and other times i just let it go, depending on how frequently she seems to be doing it.

[vyo]

let me clarify that i don't have any problem with role playing in adults, or even children playing pretend.  but she seemed to take herself a little too seriously and when it came to dog butt smelling, that was where i drew the line!

[grandmother3]

I just read your comment on your son. My grandson does the same thing. But he likes to play with men and women feet. He doesn't really smell or lick them, but he does put his head on them. He likes to rub them and put his feet all over them. First we thought it was cute, because I had foot surgery and thought it was just being concern. Now he plays with his mom, dad, mine, and anybody elses he can. He really is a very smart and outgoing child. He doesn't have any social problems and very well liked at school. His teachers says he is very bright for his age. He is very outspoken and talks to everybody he comes in contact with. So far the only thing we find strange is the feet fitish and he holds his ears alot when the door bell rings to the tv on to if somebody gets real close to his ears he covers them like it hurts him. But he tells me they don't hurt. Doctor always said nothing wrong with him. Just a typical 3 year old. Please tell me do I need to be over worried for a grandmother?    grandmother3

[Greg066]

All I can say is if he wants to smell ur feet/shoes let him...If he wants to smell his sisters feet, ur friends feet or his sisters friends feet and they don't care let him.  They will either let him or say no to him...  all up to the individual.  I think if mom just lets him smell hers especially if she has had her shoes on all day and they are really smelly he will be fine.  He already has, as do all asking the same question about there son's have a foot fetish and will his whole life.
It's harmless...I would not encourage it, but would not humiliate him over it.  He will learn that for himself eventually. You don't want to ruin his self esteem.  And he deff does not need a Therapist!!  Let him learn from others what is ok and what isn't...trust me they will tell him.
So if you catch him smelling your feet or find your shoes in his room don't make a big deal over it...Ask him "Do my feet stink today" And just say "That's nasty how can you stand smelling them".  Take your shoes away from him if you find him with them or his sisters and don't make a big deal over it. just say "Mom needs her shoes". So, like I said...don't encourage it per say, but don't mind it if you find him at your feet. just let him go.  He will be fine and there is nothing wrong with him.
Just a thought

[FootExpert1313]

I am a teen who suffered and still suffers from what is comanly know as a foot fetish. And it really is nothing to worry about. Somme people would find it strange yes but  it is not that big of deal. When i was younger i could not take attantion away from other peoples feet. I would love cressing them, massassging them and smell and kiss them. And still do but not to family only to my girlfriend. But if it conserns you that much that your boy/girl is touching your families feet tell them your feelings on that. I personally nevered touch my families feet.  Only friends of my Mom. NEVER GUYS FEET NITHER. well any way talk to you child and give them your feelings because all they want is your understanding.  

[Apes111]

I recently caught my son licking my toes while I was alseep. I freaked out and asked him several questions. He has promised me that he has never done that to any one nor has any one has done it to him. But I am still concerned of why he would want to lick his moms feet. I am so confused. He said he also gets the urge to lick other girls feet at school but has not acted on it. My son this has been going on for about a year. He is 13 now and is going through pruberty so I am not sure if this is the reason never had any signs before. Please give me some advise on what to do and how to handle this situation

[childonce]

Reading all the comments about children's interest in feet takes me back to my
childhood.  First Grade was a very very stressful experience.  One day laying on
the floor my mother's feet caught my attention from the corner of my eye.  I ended
up touching them and that began my journey as a foot fetishest.  My mother had
the biggest, softest and warmest feet that were so comforrting they became a
stress reliever, and I would escape the stress of first grade with a feeling of security
at my mother's feet.  I'm not saying it's right, but I feel it's family that is most closest
to one and most accessible to develope/express fetish.  I can understand perhaps
correcting them especially with non-family members - but please don't be too hard.
It's such a comforting outlet.  My mother was a very deep sleeper and I had count-
less occassions to lick/smell her BEAUTIFUL FEET. but when I got older, I just
couldn't bring myelf to do it.  I would still have fantasies of her and my sister (still
do sister) and now that mom is gone sometimes I wish I had kissed those feet
while she was in her deep slumber.    

[md_rassas]

not good i am 14 now and i realize i have a foot fetish i hate it ....wen i used to be small i used to do that and once i did it in school it was emberasing so stop ur child beffor that happens and try to make him forget about feet before he gets a foot fetish (if he doesnt have one already)