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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
3 year old is diruptive- is this okay?
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
3 year old is diruptive- is this okay?
by cccjj05, Jun 09, 2007 12:00AM
My 3 and half year old son is wonderful and charasmatic when he wants to be. But, often I have trouble with his behaviors. We have tried everything from time outs, rules, rewards- but nothing seems to stop him. He often does the following
1. Refuses to potty train (dispite having older brother). He will wait until he has a diaper to go poop. He also, will sit in it versus having a change.
2. He gets into everything and I do mean everything. He rips pictures off the fridge, grabs chairs to get things out of reach, frequently tips over laundry baskets.
3. Digs things out of my closet.
4. SCREAMS and I do mean a lot. Especially when upset or threatened in the least bit.
5. Has trouble sitting.
6. When mad he will throw objects at you or kick things.
7. He continues to disobey dispite intervention- ex: coloring on the walls. Our home before last he colored over the walls so much 3 rooms had to be painted. Now in our new home- he literly colored all four of his bedroom walls in 1 foot heigth spanning the wach wall.
8. We have to move our couch infront of the door if we are going to be out of the room for even 5 minutes- other wise he will run out. Of course we have to chase him down if he gets out.
He is very smart- yet we have a hard time channeling it. Even trying to do activites is hard0 because he refuses to pay attention or wait his turn. I am worried- he is suppose to go to preschool- but his behavior is so active.
1. Refuses to potty train (dispite having older brother). He will wait until he has a diaper to go poop. He also, will sit in it versus having a change.
2. He gets into everything and I do mean everything. He rips pictures off the fridge, grabs chairs to get things out of reach, frequently tips over laundry baskets.
3. Digs things out of my closet.
4. SCREAMS and I do mean a lot. Especially when upset or threatened in the least bit.
5. Has trouble sitting.
6. When mad he will throw objects at you or kick things.
7. He continues to disobey dispite intervention- ex: coloring on the walls. Our home before last he colored over the walls so much 3 rooms had to be painted. Now in our new home- he literly colored all four of his bedroom walls in 1 foot heigth spanning the wach wall.
8. We have to move our couch infront of the door if we are going to be out of the room for even 5 minutes- other wise he will run out. Of course we have to chase him down if he gets out.
He is very smart- yet we have a hard time channeling it. Even trying to do activites is hard0 because he refuses to pay attention or wait his turn. I am worried- he is suppose to go to preschool- but his behavior is so active.
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Jun 10, 2007 12:00AM
, Jun 10, 2007 12:00AM
Even though your son is pretty young, and it's too early to know how his development will unfold over the next 2-3 years, it would be wise to arrange an evaluation with a pediatric mental health clinician. Most of what you are describing could be the result of primary hyperactivity. This conditon in young children brings about a great deal of disinhibition because the child has not yet reached a stage when the control over impulses is well established in general. Hyperactivity then compounds the situation to the point at which the child looks to be 'out of control'.
