3 year old son pooing in his pants

Hi My son is 3 years old and has been toilet trained in the way of urinating on the toilet for at leaat 10 months, however no matter what i try he will not poo in the toilet or potty, he seems afraid of this, one time he did go on the toilet and we made a big fuss over it, only for him to revert to pooing his pants, he appears to know that it is wrong to do this as he always goes away and hides when he is doing a poo, he also does not seem to mind if he has poo in his pants and will not come and say that he has done poo in his pants, and he sometimes dneies having pooed his pants when you ask him if he has or not, i am unsure of what to do or try next, he does have other behavioral issues and i am not sure if these are linked in any way or not.

[grandmaof2girls]

Hi,

Your child is not alone in this problem.  My 3 year old granddaughter has the same issue.  I dont believe she has other behavior problem however.  She is  very mellow almost too mellow and I only see her every other weekend as her parents are divorced.  I dont discipline her for this but try to take to her about it.  You can tell she knows she did something wrong.  I have no clue what to do but it feels good to know I'm not alone.