Child Behavior Expert Forum
3 year old wetting pants during the day
About This Forum:

This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development

Font Size:
A
A
A
Background:
Blank
Blank
Blank
This expert forum is not accepting new questions. Please post your question in one of our medical support communities.
Blank Blank

3 year old wetting pants during the day

I have a 3 year old female who has been potty trained for about a year. A couple of months ago she started having accidents, sometimes its 2 or 3 per day, sometimes it may not happen but once every few days. She doesnt wet at night, only during the day. Do you think this is a medical or behavioral problem? Her peditrician doesnt seem to be concerned but we are. If this turns out to be behavorial where do we start to find information on correcting it? We are going to make an appt. to see a urologist to rule out medical, are there any specific questions we should ask during this visit?
Related Discussions
242606_tn?1243786248
Be sure to record in specifics the frequency, pattern, etc. of the enuresis. The pattern you describe does not suggest a urological problem, but it is wise to proceed with such an evaluation. With young children (i.e., pre-school age), it is not uncommon for stretches of daytime enuresis to occur after training has been achieved. This is frequently the case with children who are trained at a relatively early age, as was your daughter. If it persists, and she checks out OK from a medical perspective, I'd treat it casually, and schedule times for her to use the toilet during the day. There's no need to establish any behavioral program apart from this. My guess is that she will pretty quickly rid herself of this behavior.
4 Comments
Blank
Avatar_n_tn
My 5 year old daughter is going through the same thing.  She too was potty trained when she was two years old.  However, she started urinating on herself at 3 1/2 years of age.  She just started Kindergarten last week.  She usually stays dry at school (peed one time at school), but urinates on herself at home.  She will go a month or two without doing this.  Then she will do it 3-4 times a week.  We have tried ignoring it, making her clean it up, putting her in time-out.  I have guess that what she is doing is attention seeking, because she only does it more when we ignore this behavior.  I am afraid that she will be doing this for years to come.  I don't know what to do.
HELP!

Blank
Avatar_n_tn
From your description, it doesn't sound so much like a control issue, as it does a social issue where she just gets a little too wrapped up in the interaction she's having to hear her body telling her she needs to pee. (I personally have trouble leaving an immediately pleasant interaction, such as a conversation, even if it's obviously well past time to do so).

I recommend talking to your daughter about it, asking her why she wet her pants, if she knows, and telling her about the consequences. You might also want to take a page from the bedwetters, and figure out some sort of reward that can be earned for staying dry for an extended period. In the mean time, wearing training pants is something you might ask her if she wants to do. You might also explain to her that the training pants need to be private.

In the wake of the recent catholic church scandal, I'm idly wondering if it would be worth checking if the cause was an abuser in her life, but I'm not sure how to ask someone that question. Maybe ask her if there is someone she is really afraid of? This would be a stress that you might not know about, though the only sign you relate is the renewed inability to control her pee.

It might also be worth thinking about if she sometimes eats something that irritates her urinary tract -- for me, that can be too much orange juice. The classical folk remedy for this, cranberry juice (prefer the pure stuff, ocean spray really resembles soda), is useful if this is the case, and harmless if it isn't
Dr wet
Blank
Avatar_n_tn
From your description, it doesn't sound so much like a control issue, as it does a social issue where she just gets a little too wrapped up in the interaction she's having to hear her body telling her she needs to pee. (I personally have trouble leaving an immediately pleasant interaction, such as a conversation, even if it's obviously well past time to do so).

I recommend talking to your daughter about it, asking her why she wet her pants, if she knows, and telling her about the consequences. You might also want to take a page from the bedwetters, and figure out some sort of reward that can be earned for staying dry for an extended period. In the mean time, wearing training pants is something you might ask her if she wants to do. You might also explain to her that the training pants need to be private.

In the wake of the recent catholic church scandal, I'm idly wondering if it would be worth checking if the cause was an abuser in her life, but I'm not sure how to ask someone that question. Maybe ask her if there is someone she is really afraid of? This would be a stress that you might not know about, though the only sign you relate is the renewed inability to control her pee.

It might also be worth thinking about if she sometimes eats something that irritates her urinary tract -- for me, that can be too much orange juice. The classical folk remedy for this, cranberry juice (prefer the pure stuff, ocean spray really resembles soda), is useful if this is the case, and harmless if it isn't
DR wet
Blank
Avatar_f_tn
A related discussion, What causes a 6 yr old to soil themselves? was started.
Blank
Avatar_f_tn
My 2 year old boy wet himself only at the crech at home his fine. Do you think something is not going good at the crech? This really frustrate me.
Blank
Continue discussion Blank
MedHelp Health Answers
Blank
Weight Tracker
Weight Tracker
Start Tracking Now
RSS Expert Activity
242532_tn?1269553979
Blank
The 3 Essentials to Ending Emotiona...
Sep 18 by Roger Gould, M.D.Blank
242532_tn?1269553979
Blank
Control Emotional Eating with this ...
Sep 04 by Roger Gould, M.D.Blank
242532_tn?1269553979
Blank
Emotional Eating Control: How to St...
Aug 28 by Roger Gould, M.D.Blank