3 yr old fears

My 3 yr old boy has been afraid to sleep alone since he was 15 months old. Sadly I got in the habit of sleeping with him, and he is old enough now to tell us car lights in the window are a concern. We are hoping to move soon, but until then the car lights are there. He knows they are car lights and has stopped commenting on them. Now and (for the past year) he has told us there are monkeys in his room that scare him. We have tried everything to "clean" the monkey's out but he is still scared. I asked him this morning what he does not like about sleeping alone and he told me..."a big monkey will come and take me away."

So anyway, I would like to break the habit of sleeping together, but I do not know how to handle the fear aspect of it. It is difficult for me to believe I should just leave him alone and afraid (?) any advice?

[musicmama]

My friend tried this tactic and it worked beautifully.  She very patiently put the child to bed, and held her hand until she was asleep.  She did this for a few nights.  Then she sat within arms reach with the child in her bed until she was asleep.  Later, she moved farther away, but still in her room.  Later, she sat outside the child's door until the child was asleep.  Finally, she said she would be within earshot, so if she needed her mom, she could call.  The child just needed some security that took some patience to create.  I don't know if I could have this patience, but it worked for my friend.  Good luck and God bless.

[treazzure007]

You should never have acknowledged there being monkeys in the room by way of pretending to clean them out.  He should have been told that monkeys live in the zoo and they play all night and the zookeepers take care of them.  Something like that.  It's never too early to teach children what's real and what's not.  What's imaginary and what exists.