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4 1/2 year old very distructive and violent boy

M y 4 1/2 year old son is very agressive and hurts his brother and sister for no reason at all just does it because he loves to just today he hit his baby sister in the head with a metal object 3 times and lied about doing it as she ran my way screaming and crying and blood coming out of her head this is the first time he has done something this crazy but it just seems like its escelating he always hurts his brother by puncing him throwing things at him pushing him off of the bunk beds poking him with sharp objects and then he will go and hide then keep lying about doing it or what he used to hurt ither of them with i am very scared as to what he is going to do next i follow him around as much as i can i work nights just so i can be with him all day to watch him as he was kicked out of daycare and noone is willing to watch him not even my family he also likes to hurt himself and doesnt sleep very much only a few hous each night and if he has a nap during the day he will not sleep at all at night sometimes he is soooo good though not very often but when he is he is so pleasent to be around but all my friends cannot stand being around him or even my family my other two children are not like this at all he will break everything and everything he can and he has been like this since he was able to walk and gets into everything i had him in preschool and he just seemed to get werse he would just sit there all day crying and yelling and screaming and not talk to anyone and if anyone did try to talk to him he would try and hit or punch o0r bite them so i removed him from this after 1 1/2 months of this he does realize that this behaviour is not acceptable and that it is wrong and once in a while he will cry un controllable when he hurts his sister but never his brother i am at my wits end and cannot controll him i have tried time outs and he doesnt care he will stand there all day but the second you let him out hes back to the same thing he was doing i have tried bum slaps but he laughs and says that doesnt hurt and keeps doing what he was doing so i have stoped with that i have taken toys away and video games away his favorite teddy bear his tv all of him privledges favorite clothes everything and it still does not stop him i just no longer know what to do and would like to know about some options or any advice or anything as to let me know what is wrong with him thank you
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Allergies, brain injuries, tumors, and diseases can cause a sort of short circuiting of the brain which makes him unable to control his behavior.  Mental and/or physical abuse can cause a rage that the child hasn't learned to control.  Who was his babysitter before he could learn to talk?   Could that person's influence be part of the problem?   The normal healthy child wants almost desperately to please those dear to him, so something clearly is wrong.  Have his physician order appropriate testing to see that everything is as it should be in his brain (with special attention to any area that looks squeezed or compressed or malformed, and developing tumors) and get behavioral counseling for your son.  The whole family needs to learn how to respond to his behaviour to enable him to change his behavior, even if there's something structurally wrong in the brain.  It would help immensely if each family member could learn things to say and do that would create the desire within your son to want to please them, be good and kind to them.  Could his actions be because he's powerless to help you and you are being abused?  Whether it's physical or emotional, his recovery should involve counseling for the entire family.  Educate yourself as to the incredible problems that can be caused by food and environmental toxins.  Just dumping a medium to large saucepan of cold water over the head of someone in a temper tantrum, then walking away, works wonders!  Of course, you've got to clean up the water, but not immediately; just pour and walk away.  Don't know how approving the child psychologists would be, but it definitely works!  Either ignore the demands to know why you did that, or say with deep concern, "Your face was so red I thought maybe you were going to catch fire, so I just wanted to make sure that wouldn't happen.  Are you feeling better, now?"  Then it's time for a hug.  Best of luck to you in getting help for your son---and smother him with love.
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This sounds like a serious family problem I would advise you get some help for your son he sounds very upset by something, Ask your Doctor to check him out and get some counselling help ,,Good luck
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