4 year old boy behaviour normal?

[jazmum]

Hi my son is 4 years old, he has been at nursery for a year, the nursery are concened that my son isnt coping with sharing toys and has a huff or hits out if he doesnt get his own way. he will push or hit toys into other children. He is very loving to mum and dad (he is an only child) he has been very spoiled which I know is our fault. He is very active and but wouldnt say over hyper. he gets excitable like any other 4 year old. I think he is struggling to deal with not getting his own way all the time when playing with other children. Does this sound reasonable or should I be concerned like the nursery are? He is very sociable and loves talking to other adults and children. He uses his imagination to play with his toys ( which I think rules out Autism)

[margypops]

I agree that there is no call for therapy for this , not wanting to share is very common, and as you say there is too much labelling going on.He is just a normal little boy wanting his own way , you can teach him to share with you at home, make a game of it, lots of praise when he does share ...

[margypops]

I also think that the nursary have a responsiblity to be able to handle situations before they happen,  its a very common trait not wanting to share , perhaps if they put a time frame on playing with toys,some children want to snatch a toy before the child with the toy has finsihed with it, you can see that not all children will want to hand over that toy.So again I think you can teach him to share at home bu timing how long he has the toy then he gives it up but also suggest to the school they can handle it better than they are doing ...It doesnt sound like Autism at all .so dont let them put that into your head ...good luck

[jazmum]

hi, no he isnt left with anyone apart from nursery and my mum. What kind of therapy. I dont want my son to end up labellled because he is a very bright and able boy just feel he is struggling in a large social situation. thanks

[aleasa]

Jazmum- I'm sorry to hear about your son.  Is all of this behaviour all of a sudden or been going on for awhile?  As a former teacher, I would recommend therapy- which I've seen do wonders.  Also, consider if there is some abuse issue going on-- hate this option but aggressive behavior can happen if children don't know how to communicate something.  Is he alone with anyone ever?  I hate even suggesting it, but you have to consider all options... little ones should never share a room with teen siblings... had some issues with this as a teacher where a little boy kept drawing penises at school and graphic things.  Sometimes puppets and drawing can bring out whatever is ailing him.. if that's the issue.  You would not believe the things I learned from 5 year olds this way.  I'm not an expert, but sharing my knowledge with you... praying for your little guy.  xoxo