again you are searching all the old posts out to drag them back up
This is a REALLY old post.
Typically kids may naturally stumble upon maturbation but actual sexual play with a partner is either from seeing something or having something done to them quite often. I would investigate further if your young child is found to be engaging in this activity.
Sounds completely normal for kids. Often enough, parents assume the kid learned it somewhere like TV, video etc. This behavior is normal for kids to play and parents should not become "horrified" or "end of the world" stance about it.
I'm sorry. I'm typing on my phone and obviously didn't do if very well. Please excuse my typing errors:)
I just recently caught my 4 year old daughter doing the same thing. I immediately brought her to the living room to talk privately and I'm not sure I handling it the right way. I was a bit panicked and made a bigger deal out of it then I should have. If I were you, I'd assume the same may have happened with your son's friend. I'd talk to her parents about it and ask them to talk to her. It's going to be uncomfortable if you make a big deal out of it, but, it wouldn't be fair to the little girl if you just stopped letting her be friends with her. I wouldn't allow any more sleep overs and would make sure every visit is supervised. Hope this helps.
It is nervous making to see this, but it goes on more often than most adults fully appreciate. If you think this girl is a good playmate other than the described behaviors and you want to continue the playdates, you need to discuss this with her family, provide close supervision (as you have been) - no closed doors, playing in open sight, set up rules about no touching/kissing, and be prepared to express your discomfort when they do something that crosses a boundary (even if it's not a physical boundary). Understand that this behavior may recur, so don't be surprised if it happens -- instead be prepared. Although he's young, he's not too young to tell him about private parts and to explain that no one should touch him and he shouldn't touch anyone else. Teach him to say, "No, my Mom and Dad told me that this is against the rules" when someone approaches him about this. It may be an opportunity to teach him about something important even though you understandably may decide it's not worth all of this.
I'd say she was watching too much late night TV, except a 3 year old shouldn't know to be nervous when you walk in. I'd severe the relationship. Skip the drama of reporting, your son's too young to even deal with the ambient stress involved.