4 year old vommitting while in the care of others

[preciousmommyof4]

My 4 year old throws up when I leave her in the care of anyone. She throws up when its time to take a nap or when she comes home from school & I am not home. What or why can make her do this? I have to leave work sometimes because she is throwing up but when I get home she is fine. She has 2 older brothers & a younger sister.

[Mahmahdukes]

I don't have time to read other answers so I apologize if somebody already said what I'm about too.I worked at a daycare for over 8 years and I ran into this issue with several children and one of the reasons may be that they're aware that it can get them home with you.It is something that they usually have control of and are making themselves throw up.Yes it can be due to the stress/anxiety of them not being with you but trust me when I say that they are okay. The children would get dropped off throw up and then the moment the parent would leave 10 minutes later they would be just fine. I think that if you don't cuddle her or reward her with extra affection when you do have to pick her up because of doing it which by the way I think is not right if they're making you pick her up because we do not send children home unless they have an actual fever above 101.5. I would in general just try to give her a little more one-on-one even if it's say before bedtime.Try to do it consistently,find a time the fits your schedule during the weekdays to give her that special time(at least 15mins,hold her and while reading a book,brushing hair,looking at photos,etc)and then when you drop her off you can remind her hey don't forget when mom picks you up we will have our special time together just please don't throw up today.You can offer rewards to for her to for not throwing up.A lollipop some people call that a bribe I like to use the word reward you being concerned is perfectly normal and understandable but your child is ultimately ok.Hope this helped.Please feel free to ask me anything or reply back.If you want you can email me ***@**** wishes and luck to you and yours.

[Jimbotron5000]

Well, let me say that odd behavior is usually tied back to the limbic system/autonomic nervous system. If this system is thrown off course, very mild stressors can become a very big deal. The autonomic nervous system controls a large part of the adaptive system, so any change in environment can potentially cause a reaction which in your case with your child vomiting due to a physical change in environment. So, what can throw off the autonomic nervous system? Low amounts of vitamin B1(thiamin). The brain is particularly sensitive to this vitamin. Well how does one become deficient in this vitamin? Eating lots of carbohydrates (cereal, sugar, wheat products, cookies, potatoes, etc) with low amounts of nutrition (vitamins and minerals). You may watch the intake of carbs proteins and fats, but what about the balance of nutrients along with them? Well, how b1 becomes depleted is that when you intake sugar, the sugar gets brought to the mitochondria of a cell, then a reaction happens that produces ENERGY. This reaction is heavily dependent on thiamin (B1). Now the more carbohydrates you intake, the more of this vitamin you need. And guess what, the brain uses a TON of it because your brain is the biggest energy sucking structure in your body. Now why don't other children have the same effect when they eat carbs and they're fine? Well there are vast differences in the genes between all of us, and certain stressors that add as risk factors for certain things like deficiencies. One example of a risk factor is if you had hypermesis (morning sickness/ pregnancy vomiting). And that itself is an example of thiamin deficiency because of the limbic systems inability to adapt to the stress of having a child thus causing a short term breakdown in certain areas of the autonomic nervous system. Another example is the genetic disposition of your child, if your child is born with a higher functioning brain, it requires more energy to operate thus increases the sensitivity of thiamin depletion. It seems to be a lot of the time with children with thiamin deficiency, they are unusually bright yet have odd behavior. I went through 8 years of school with ADD and some of my teachers assumed I had autism, until I aced all their classes. I really didn't pull myself out of distractions until I changed my lifestyle in high school, where I involved myself in sports and had much better eating habits. It seems that my ADD had just dissapeared. That is more of an anecdotal experience but it shows perspective of the role of proper nutrition and physical activity. Okay, so now what do you do? Because it might be pretty tough for your doctor to believe you. Well, there's a book by derrick lonsdale called "A nutritional approach to revised model for medicine." It is an excellent read and is scientific as well as it MAKES SENSE. I also urge you to skim around his published medical journals on the NIH. A lot of them are quite astounding. Anyways, after doing research about it. Grab ecological formulas "allithiamin" this is a disulfide derivitive of thiamin that does not need a coenzyme for absorption and is essential for having the best results. Also grab chelated magnesium, and a decent multivitamin. I recommend vitaspectrum from Klaire labs. It is designed for sensitive people and the capsules can be broken open and mixed into applesauce. Now I also understand your child is 4, I would discuss supplements with your daughters doctor first and also do your own research! Sometimes doctors will get all hot and bothered when you try to solve something yourself and I have no idea why. If I didn't do my own research in two cases of my life so far I would have died (late disseminated lyme). Also one thing to add is that you should cut down on carbohydrates and add more healthy fats and proteins to the diet. The developing brain thrives off of omega fats. And also, make sure she's active when she starts getting older! Being outside and active is the best stabilizer for children! And remember always trust that motherly instinct, do your own research, and love life.

[Deaaqua]

It's anxiety. I was the same way as a child. I would keep a bowl or towel next to my bed at all times just in case I couldn't make it to the bathroom to vomit. It eventually got worse. It wasn't until I was an adult that I was diagnosed with severe anxiety disorder. I am on meds now and I no longer have constant nausea and vomiting.

[Deaaqua]

I meant it's possibly anxiety. It could be something else as well.

[specialmom]

I agree with sandman. This sounds like anxiety.  Good advice form Sandman and I'd speak to your doctor about it.  good luck

[Sandman2]

My GUESS is that it is a stress reaction.  Similar to a gag reflex.   Eliminate the stress or teach her how to handle stress.  For example, at her age, a nap is usually not needed.  If she is forced to take one, you have the stressor.  And if she comes home from school and is expecting to see you - and you are not there - definitely a stress situation.  
   Also, there is a whole set of books aimed at this age group which can help.  The books are meant to be read aloud (many times).  You might want to check out "When I feel afraid."  The link is below.   And on that link you can also check out "When I feel sad" or "When I feel scared".  These books are really good and will help her learn ways to handle that stress.   https://www.amazon.com/When-Feel-Afraid-Learning-Along/dp/1575421380/ref=pd_sim_14_16?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1575421380&pd_rd_r=368681RVN4P3R8H7FTKD&pd_rd_w=ttiVM&pd_rd_wg=fjo7m&psc=1&refRID=368681RVN4P3R8H7FTKD