4 year old with anger

i have a four year old grandaughter that knows it is wrong to act out and will go along good for a short while and then all of a sudden she will tear up a room. she has been kicked out of two daycares and the public school say they do not have a program for her because she tested well on her screening and they cannot do anthing until she is in kindergarden which is the next school term. we just do not know what to do. you say to her what are the rules and she will tell you no fighting no biting no kicking no screaming  and she will say that is a bad thing to do. drop her off at day care within the hour they are saying come back and pick her up. i know they are just doing their jobs but what are we supposed to. she is in couseling which oes not seem to be working because when she acts up she will say can i go back to see the lady and she is refering to the counselor. please help

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It is the law that you can get another evaluation if you do not agree with the outcome of the initial eval from he school district.  I work in early intervention (birth to three) and it sounds like she may have some overlooked sensory needs that are not being addressed, if this is the case, you will see these behaviors until the sensory piece is addressed.  There are tons of activities that will help her if this turns out to be true.  In the meantime, I would suggest researching sensory processing disorder and behaviors.  Getting in touch with an Occupational Therapist that is knowledgeable of sensory seeking behaviors would be another great place to start.