4 yr old can't able to potty trained

[helpme82]

Hi all,
  
    please help me by advice for potty training for my 4 yr old son.he is active mentally & physically.But,he is poop or peep sometimes in his pants.he is not bothering about it.he will go in potty well in sometimes.one more problem,i can't figure out when he will go to poop correctly i mean regurlarly.

  give me some advice how to potty train properly.I am giving some rewards when he is doing good.i tried my levelbest i can.but,i can't succeed.can u help me to solve the issue??

[3rdchild]

My situation was very different than yours considering my child has special needs.  He was finally totally potty trained during the day by the time he was about 5.  It was not easy.
Your doing the right thing by giving rewards when he uses the potty.  Is there anything special that he really would like?  Give him a goal....if you go poopy and peepy on the potty for a week with NO accidents then you will get this special prize.  My son worked for floam.  It's this sticky stuff like play doh.  He got one container of floam every few days or week that he went straight on the potty, mostly poopy was the problem.
I'm not saying you have to go out and buy your child a new computer or something....just something a little special.  I had a bag full of little toys...(from like Oriental Trading Co.) and that worked for like only a few times.  He saw what was in the bag and it was no longer anything exciting.

One more thing....
It might sound weird....
When he goes on the potty...Congratulate him and give him praises.  Let him know you are proud of him and that he's a big boy...etc..(We used to get very excited when my son used the potty...they love the excitement.)  Like I said, I'm not sure that would help with a typical child although I can't see it hurting.

Good Luck!

[3rdchild]

One more thing,
If you having a problem with nighttime accidents.  I would master the daytime potty training first.  If he's potty trained through the night that's great.  
I guess there's always a small chance it could be something medically wrong although if he's using the potty most of the time, I'm sure he's fine.  You could always call your pediatrician for advice if nothing seems to help you.  They might actually be able to tell you a way or something to feed him that may help "regulate" his movements.
Just my input...

[cardsfan]

First of all, RELAX! It has been my experience with my 3 children that they potty train when THEY are ready. All three of my kids potty trained at different ages. My youngest was the hardest. He did not start to potty train till 4. The only thing hard about itwas it took him long to be ready. It just happened over night for us. When he was ready he did it and had no problems!! I had people say your son is 4 and not potty trained! Thats ridiculous!! You should NEVER force a child to potty train. If you do, you will have more problems in the end! Just try to relax and let him do it on his own time! He will get there! A potty chart and lots of positive reinforcement will help in the process!! Good Luck!

[mum2beagain]

I am feeling relieved having read your post today, my son is 3 1/2 with hydrocephalus and cerebral palsy and for months others have been on to me to potty train him, mostly because he has good bladder control (he can stop mid stream), but I don't feel his language or physical abilities mean he is ready. He will sit on the potty sometimes but at other times gets upset and won't, he has only actually peed a few times and I think that has been coincidence and he stops himself when he goes and finishes once his diaper is back on. He doesn't really understand reward charts and things either.
The praise thing makes him happy at the time but he doesn't seem to relate it to when it is the next time to sit on the potty. Currently we just sit on the potty in the morning when he gets up (most sucessful time as he is dry through the night and if I get hime up as soon as he wakes I can catch him  before he goes in his diaper) at lunchtime and before bath time (little sucess at these times). We have tried the feel and learns, plastic pants and underware but he is not bothered about being wet. I would love to hear more about how you went about training your son.

many thanks Jo.

[pleasehelp07]

i highly recommend pull ups cool alerts, they are wonder ful, when the child pee's in the pull up his lil thingy gets cold and they cant stand it. i did my 3 year old and it took 2 eeks and only one family pack of pullups and still had some left

[Jixy2]

I read your reply to helpme82 and I have a 5 year old who had stomach and bowel problems 2 yrs ago and refuses to go to the toilet or potty.  He will just say "no, I don't want to or I don't have to!"  I've tried everything from rewards to praise to even threats of taking things away.  He is so adamant and his mind is made up.  I am at my whits end and bought new star wars and indiana jones underwear and he refuses to wear any underwear and just pullups.  I was so angry one day and I refused to put pullups on him for school so he wore just his pants and peed when he got there.  I just gave up and kept him in pullups.  I am so stressed and dont know what to do.  Can anybody help me, please I am desperate.  
Thank you,
Stressed out mom

[steph7383]

I know exactly how you feel. I have a 4 yr. old boy who will not poop in the potty. I have never had a problem with him peeing in the potty,he goes every time he has to pee and hasn't had a accident in forever.He can poop in the potty because he has maybe 10-15 times but has just stopped.I don't do pull-ups for fear in the beginning it would confuse him.So needless to say we go through alot of underware and alot of washing and bleaching. He has a some bowel problems to so I am not sure if this is why he won't poop in the potty or what. I have tried rewards,small ones large ones,stickers,charts,praise you name it and I bet I have tried it. I have taken away favorite toys. I have made him stay in it for awhile,made him clean it up himself. I have explained to him every aspect of pooping in the potty and I have let it go for periods of time. I have also made him sit on the potty and came up with a schedule. HELP,nothing has worked.I am soooo glad that my little boy is not the only one.He is a smart, happy, healthy,entergetic little boy who is well behaved This is my only problem with him but what a big problem it is. So any ideas from anyone as I am a stressed out mom too!!!

Thanks,
Stressed Out Too!!!!