5 year old acting out for attention

[sunshinemom354]

My 5 year old sone is a sweet well behaved boy most of the time. He does really well in school and has a lot of friends. In the past year I got engaged to a man with a 3 year old daughter and his father got engaged to a woman with a 5 year old son. He went from being the baby to having to share his parents with other kids. I have exhausted mystelf trying to do everything right to blend our families. My future step daughter has some "princess" issues due to her father spoiling her. We are working on that. My son gets to the point where he reverts to baby behavior when she is around. He is whiny, he screams and yells and cries and plain refuses to cooperate. The two kids do fight but when it is just me I feel like I handle the fight properly and am fair to both kids. My fiance tends to baby his daughter and blames my son. It is causing so much stress in our relationship. He dosn't enjoy his time with his daughter because my son is acting out so much. His daughter acts out as well but is getting better. My son loves my fiance and when the two of them have alone time together it goes really well. Although now my fiance is so bothered by my son's actions that he doesn't want to be around him. I know that my fiance needs therapy to deal with a variety of issues but my concern right now is for my son. I would like to figure out how to help him better communicate when he is angry or sad rather than acting like a baby and having a complete meltdown.

[margypops]

Make sure he gets the same amount of positive attention as the other child does..sounds like thats what he is trying to get..he's feeling left out .its a sibling rivalry thing going on ..hes jealous in my opinion .Focus on his positive side and praise him when you see him doing something right..good luck