Ok - here is a summary
My child (just turned 5), possibly mild PDD-NOS (autism spectrum), or suffering from anxiety had a "functional behavior assesment" done. School beleives that his behavioral difficulties stem from anxiety rather than "autistic" traits. He does zone out a lot, but come another minute - and he will be very much engaged, interacting, smiling, whole nice yards. I am really puzzled by him - I tend to think it is anxiety related. Up to the age of 2.3-3 he did not have any language/anxiety problems. Now he seems to be scared of everything. School he goes to is very structured.
Behavior management plan was put in place to target the following behaviors:
Running away from unpreffered activity, intense tantrums and bad language.
I did not hear any bad language at home (he picked that one from Dad) for about 4 months. Tantrums - happen maybe twice a week, when he is tired/hungry/not feeling well - last about 4 min total, little to no agression. Postive discipline is implemented.
At school, since last August, he had total of 9 tantrums. That make it a tantrum and a half a month (The longest lasted about 45 minutes - he got very scared and anxious and that has triggered a tantrum). Once he was talking about "cutting a teacher" with a plastic knife, but did not attempt it. At home, he uses knife at a meal time, and knows where the knifes are, but he never attempted to do anything similar to this
Are they making too much out of it? I just really think that today, schools overanalyze behavior and get all "concerned", hence more attention to the behavior, hence it worsens.....
His father has an extremely agressive temperament (used to exibit it in front of our little one, too, but that has stopped)
I was extremely anxious as a child, however, was very succesfull in school (school format was very different, very academics-oriented, little stimulation, subtle colors, very few distractions - different country).
My son very rarely has tantrums in stores (I cannot remember last time) - even in toy stores he many times is content "just to look at toys" and accepts "no" with no problem.
But he did develop strange anxieties lately - did not want to go to Aquarium recently (went every year when he was 1,2,and 3 - no problem), scared of people making roaring sounds (I tell my colleagues at work and they wonder why anyone would make roaring sounds), yesterday we were having a dinner outside, and he at some point was staring in the dark, and then requested that we go home (no fear of dark prior to that)...
Just let me know what you think - I just did not feel that 9 tantrums a year for a 4 year old are worthy of getting together a great big meeting with bunch of professionals......
By the way, his daycare (less structure) rarely has any complaints about his behavior and if so, they are very minor.....There was never-ever any talk of canceling his enrolment because of his behavior.
Oh well - I guess I am just venting
Need your input, friends:)